Difference between respect and submission

My submission to allbelong@airbnb.com regarding their potentially dangerous Community Commitment proposal. Feel free to send as your own, with or without modifications (though change my name of course!). License is public domain.

Subject: Feedback about the Community Commitment

Hi there,

Airbnb’s Community Commitment proposal implies that hosts must submit to their guests beliefs to remain hosts on your platform, even if those beliefs are unfounded, a concerning notion which is easily illustrated with the following perceived disabilities and gender identities example:

> Gender identification as an attack helicopter, with pronouns pewpewpewpew (subjective), schulschulschulschul (objective) and Geronimo (possessive), and with a perceived disability of having no face.

The current policy enforces that the host must submit to such delusions to conform with Airbnb, which outlaws what conscientious respect would be, which would be getting them help, not entertaining their delusions:

> https://youtu.be/F43kaxT3698 — Airbnb style University of Michigan’s gender identity policy in action

There is a big difference between respecting beliefs and respecting people. To illustrate, here is the definition of respect:

> respect |rɪˈspɛkt| noun 2 due regard for the feelings, wishes, or rights of others. E.g. young people’s lack of respect for their parents.

Which necessitates at times, a disrespect for one’s beliefs, especially when beliefs can be undeserving and counteractive to one’s wellbeing.

Due regard by definition is the linchpin of respect, yet this is often forgotten. Respect is earned, through scrutiny and excellence. It seems many from the political correctness ideology believe breathing entitles others to obey them. Not the case, as per the definition chain of due:

> due |djuː| adjective 2 [attributive] of the proper quality or extent
> due |djuː| noun 1 (one’s due/dues) one’s right; what is owed to one: he thought it was his due.
> owe |əʊ| verb [with object] have an obligation to pay or repay (something, especially money) in return for something received
> owe one a living: used to express disapproval of someone who expects to receive financial support or other benefits without doing any work: they think the world owes them a living.

I understand however under marxist/socialist/communist/leftist ideologies that one does believe breathing entitles one to all the same benefits as everyone else, and that if one doesn’t submit willingly to their cause, consensual arrangements and freedom from oppression are thrown out the window and the oppression of gun comes in. Avoiding oppression should be everyone’s aim, not increasing it.

> https://youtu.be/XAM70Sg_irU—the left value oppression more than consensual arrangements

It is rarely the case that respect for one’s ideas ever results in respect for one as a person. Fake sincerity plays into this — asking how one is, but not actually caring, is not caring, no matter how much sociopaths wish it to be.

Beliefs are dangerous if respected, it is how language becomes censored and how bad ideas go unchallenged. With censored language, one cannot fight in the battle ground of ideas, instead there will be only the battle ground of silencing and hostility, the tools of authoritarians, in which truth is not valued over agreeableness:

> https://youtu.be/-4R0bWC41g4
> https://youtu.be/mDg8sP_atIA — how tolerance can create problems
> https://youtu.be/Bpim_n0r0z0 — risks on campus and introduction to political and personality profiles
> https://youtu.be/fvPgjg201w0—campus political correctness, and personality profiles
> https://youtu.be/7oCmhZ-1gGc — should freedom of speech include the license to offend
> https://youtu.be/zQqxlzHJrU0 — dangers in how political correctness impair truth
> https://youtu.be/WRGyvFykakI — great talk on skepticism and why it feels scary
> https://youtu.be/hkhUivqzWv0 — a direct criticism of euphemisms
> https://youtu.be/AnDZ4ERVSGo — if you enjoy all the above, good quick followup

This policy is very concerning for hosts, for which I am not currently, but will now will never intend to be. I feel for current hosts that value conscientiousness over agreeableness, of which consensual agreements that respect people are being overturned by AirBnB’s authority — the opposite of liberty — in fact, the antithesis of liberty:

> liberty |ˈlɪbəti| noun (plural liberties) [mass noun] 1 the state of being free within society from oppressive restrictions imposed by authority on one’s behaviour or political views. E.g. compulsory retirement would interfere with individual liberty.

I hope that AirBnB goes back to respecting people, respecting consensual agreements, punishing non-consensual arrangements, rather than only allowing consent when it aligns with dangerous political agendas, which disrespects people, enforces submission to delusions, belittles the agency of adults as if they are children, and silences opposition to promote groupthink:

> https://youtu.be/XAM70Sg_irU — enforcement always comes at the cost of liberties, and that balance must be made to increase liberty and agency, never create dependence
> https://youtu.be/HwF9SFaKy6U — it is unfair on these kids to never be provided counter view points, in fact, it is indoctrinating them into blinder spots
> https://youtu.be/ffOPImz4Rp0 — it is sad such kids then protected from cognitive dissonance, do not understand cognitive dissonance provides opportunity for growth if embraced, rather than regression is resisted
> https://twitter.com/balupton/status/792299505387311104 — some other concerning examples of how this policy would be detrimental to respecting people

Finally, as an aside, a note on gender to partner with the earlier resources:

> https://youtu.be/fW6AndSUByo and http://www.helenfisher.com/downloads/articles/Brown_et_al_2013.pdf — personality seems more about a matrix of hormones, some of which are more prominent in different sexes, which would invalidate notion of gender spectrum

Benjamin Lupton