LGBTQIA/Sexuality/Relationships

Cowboy Up: Gay Men in Rural America

When we study gay life, place matters.

Loren A Olson MD
Equality Includes You
11 min readJun 18, 2020

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Two cowboy hats suggesting that two men are embracing.
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Several old men wearing seed corn ballcaps sat around in the feed store in St. Charles, Iowa, drinking Folger’s coffee out of Styrofoam cups. Although Doug and I never heard this conversation, I imagine it went something like this:

Have ya’ seen what those two sissy boys that bought the old Palmer place are doin’?

Isn’t that the darndest thing you ever saw! (Good Baptists didn’t say “damn.’)

They’re gonna raise some weird lookin’ cattle with a white stripe around the middle.

Those cattle belong in a zoo. They look like Oreos. (Everyone chuckles.)

They even bought a Russian tractor, ‘stead of a John Deere.

Well, I’ll be. Never saw such a thing.

And they’ve never farmed before!

They’re plannin’ on sellin’ GRASS-fed beef. (Heads shake all around.)

That meat ‘il be as tough as a fourteen-point buck!

Well, they won’t last long out there.

St. Charles, Iowa, is a town of a little over four hundred people about thirty miles south of Des Moines. And yet, it was a world away…

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Loren A Olson MD
Equality Includes You

Gay father; Psychiatrist; Award-winning author FINALLY OUT. Chapter excerpt here: http://bit.ly/2EyhXTY Top writer on Medium. Not medical advice.