Societal Molding of the Weak Christian Woman

Plenty of Christian women are unable to carry the cross today.

At fifty-five years old, I rarely get angry. Simply because I’ve basically seen it all and life has worn it out of me. Or so I thought, that is. Last week, a local event restored those embers and set my disgust and temper ablaze. This event took place at Sacred Heart Academy, an all-girls Catholic high school situated not to far from me. You can familiarize yourself with the story here.

If you prefer not to deviate to another resource, let me sum this occurrence up for you in a nutshell: Two teams were playing. The coach of one of the teams outcoached the other and subsequently, that team outplayed the other…by a lot. The game ended with an enormous chasm between the scores of both teams. The feelings of the losing team got hurt. And in the end, the winning coach was suspended and apologies were extended by the coinciding school. Apparently, this type of competitive behavior trampled the morality of the school and all that it stood for as well as what it endeavors to teach its students.

How anti-Christian of them, I believe. That response reflects the societal molding of the weak Christian woman for certain. How convenient for the devil if you ask me.

Why do I say this?

Let me begin my exclaiming that I am a Christian. I spend everyday studying Christianity and engaging in devotional practices. I also step out of traditional faith-based education or extrapolation. My first allegiance is to God despite the label me or others place upon myself or what I do.

As is such, I have become quite clear in one aspect of truth above all else, “Whatever lesson God has endeavored to teach man, directly through himself or Jesus Christ Almigty, never did he remove the pain, trauma nor challenge associated with it.” Never. The reason? Because God knew that the impact, commitment and allegiance he was in pursuit of through his creation would suffer if he had.

The result of teaching half a lesson is “half the learning” and a weaker hold over those under his tutelage. Understanding human nature as God does (given he made us), he knew the extent that he needed to go with human beings in order to get his point across fully and make the learning stick — for human beings’ own good as much as his. And so he did just that, molding strong Christians out of weak flesh through pain and struggle in the worst of all conditions.

There is nothing Godly about Sacred Heart Academy’s actions toward their win or their coach. Coach Jason Kirck behaved as God would have done had he been coaching this game. Actually, he was kinder. In a very safe framework, he was teaching his own team of young women to be fierce in their souls; to embrace the fight with absolute adoration and commitment; and to do it all unapologetically albeit without brutality or physical harm.

What he was teaching the opposing team in that very same safe framework was to experience, endure, and persevere despite overwhelming odds and excruciating efforts. He was coaching them how to become adept in rising from self-defeating thoughts. He was arming them to overcome future suffering while training them to stand up to immense battles in places much less safe and imposing. He was guarding against unconceivable, irreversible damage. He was preparing these young women to face evil and fight with all that they had because he knows that evil is like water. It will seep into any crack allowed.

And what did this responsible, intelligent, effective, highly respected coach get for it? Suspended. And the winning team? Lessons in shame and guilt as well as weakened temperments and constitutions all under the guise of morality and Christianity — interpretation at its worst, if you ask me.

Interpretation that leaves Christianity vulnerable to man’s ego and eliminates God, his intentions, and his ultimate goals from the mix. Interpretation that leaves these young women, and others like them or who look up to them. to remain removed from the power and knowledge of who they were made to be when overcome by darkness. “Warriors” in the best of all interpretations.

When you keep a young woman from knowing herself, wholly, you toss her to the wolves. You remove her from being able to fully survive on her own the day she is called to do so. She will be called, despite. We all are.

You disempower her as well as disassociate her from all of the Christian women who came before her — the Mary’s, the Sarah’s, the Esther’s, the Rachel’s. Women who were anything but weak; who showed tremendous strength in their worship and their lives. And with whom God entrusted the future of mankind firmly in their bellies and hands. Their courage didn’t just happen. It was learned and earned by the very same hardship and pain their counterparts, the men, were taught through.

This brings me to another point. I suspect that, had Sacred Heart Academy been an all-boys Catholic school, the same result would not have prevailed. I firmly believe that coach Jason Kirck would have received cheers, pats on his back and maybe even a “coach of the year” trophy.

While Sacred Heart Academy’s chosen messaging might mesh with society’s continued demoralization of womanhood, it absolutely flies in the face of Christianity as well as the character and stamina of the historical Christian woman. The more we let these things go, the further from God we become, not to mention the wholeness of the lessons and commitment he set out to provide.

The end result, the elimination of God by society’s own hand, not withstanding, so much of Christianity as we know it today.



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