In Vain Asylum
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In Vain Asylum

I Asked a Guy Out Myself and Wow, Dudes Have It Hard

Dating isn’t “easier” for men.

Photo by Julia Smorochinskaya on Unsplash

When I was younger, I was resentful of the role that men got to play in dating. Men got to ask women out. I had to wait around to be approached.

I told myself that men had it easier than women did. A guy got to be proactive. He got to act.




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Elle Silver

Elle Silver

I write about divorce, relationships, and family. Everything I’ve learned about love, I’ve learned the hard way. You can learn from my mistakes.

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