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I “Quiet Quit” My Marriage, Staying for the Money and for Our Kids, Even Though I Was Miserable
Only by “loudly quitting” was I able to finally move on.
“We need to go to marriage therapy now!” my husband cried out. I’d just told him I was leaving him. He said I’d blindsided him, and demanded we go to marriage therapy right that moment.
Actually, we ended up in the counselor’s office the very next day. My husband called his own therapist, who just happened to know a marriage counselor in the same building, who just happened to have a slot open the following day. How convenient!
Yes, I’m being sarcastic. I didn’t want to talk to a marriage therapist about how to reconcile our relationship. I wanted a divorce. I’d been unhappy for a long time.
So why was this news so surprising to my husband? How could he have been so unaware of my unhappiness? Why did he feel so blindsided?
Because instead of being open about my unhappiness, I’d simply “quiet quit” our marriage.*
What is “quiet quitting”?
Quiet quitting has been in the news a lot these days. We typically hear the term associated with the workplace. People are tired of their jobs so they just opt out.
