#Ethical Misandry
Ethical Misandry — being laughingly dismissive/hostile to the patriarchy & masculine people in the abstract — without hostility towards an individual masculine person until earned.
Obviously, I wear the feminist label. It’s a vital part of who I am, a feminist raised by generations of feminists before me. My lines go back through countless strong women — widows who raised children on their own — suffragettes battling mental illness — my direct line goes back to my fuckton of Great(s)-Grandmother, Mary Easty, a victim of Salem. My family has strong women everywhere I turn and as I age I realize how vital they are in who I’ve become.
Having been a woman on the internet with opinions she dares express for twenty fucking years now, my brand of feminism has more snark, bite and rage than my mother or her mother. With that snark in mind, I mockingly embraced “Misandrist” as the MRAs began to dominate online discussion. As I find them utterly absurd, I’ve called myself a misandrist with equal absurdity in mind for years now. Hell, my necklace says “misandrist” right now.
When Ethical Misandry entered my world, the label instantly felt like home. The best descriptor I’ve found for where I sit within the feminist landscape.
Ethical Misandry & Male Tears
Let’s clear something up. “Male Tears” and my forever drinking and/or bathing in them are not attacks on actual masculine expressions of emotion.
“Male Tears” — It is specifically used in reference to men/masculine folks who belittle and harass us spewing endless sexist comments about how weak we are, SJW “triggered” memes, often tone policing with “hysterical”, but then lose their shit when we show backbone.
Also used in more harsh ways towards the MRAs, folks who believe that *white* men are now “the most oppressed” and live under tyrannical matriarchy society where Misandry is an actual social ill. Those are the male tears I bathe in and goddamnit I have earned my disillusionment.
Once again for those in the back:
Misandry irritates
Misogyny kills.
(Plus uh, it’s not real as far as being a societal institution with power in American Society. #SorryNotSorry)
Hold up, let me cover those basic insults for you..
- I have queer or SJW hair that is brightly colored. Apparently that’s often all you need to know before you hurl insults like spitballs.
- My glasses are….problem glasses!!! The fucking horror.
- Mental Illness is in most of my bios so obviously I’m *triggered* all of the time. Seriously person who tosses triggered around like that? I’m glad that you have that luxury and try to believe that if you’d ever experienced a triggered episode that you would never mock it again.
- I wear too much makeup, something about my appearance screams attention whore *yawwwwnnn* ProTip: Absolutely nothing about my appearance is for your benefit. So, you can insult till your fingers go numb buuuuuuut it really doesn’t bug me. Sorry, not sorry.
- Apparently I’m a dildowarmer as well — which okay, you know, that’s fair.
- Slut slut slutty mcslutface. Got it.
- Broken beyond repair — Sure, okay. I’m good with that though cause broken or not? I’m a badass.
Sure that list will grow over time.
This publication exists to hold space for the bullshit dealt with on a daily basis. This is a space I need to be a woman online & survive. It will grow organically, I’m sure.
Talk to me about being an Ethical Misandrist could mean to you…
It’s hard out there as a feminine person, it’s hard and it’s getting harder by the day. This election is stirring up sexism, slut shaming, victim blaming and making it so very obvious how little a large percentage of the population thinks of women as a whole.
People need spaces to feel safe, but we also need spaces to be angry. This aims to be both. You are safe here to be vulnerable and soft. You are safe here to be angry. To be furious. This is a place where you are welcome to take up as much space as you want. This is a place where your voice is valued.
No, you do not need to be a feminist, an ethical misandrist, or anything else to post here. You do not need to be a woman, femme and non-binary voices are welcome. Trans voices are welcome. Survivor voices are welcome. Ally voices are welcome but will be vetted.
Toxic masculinity, MRAism, Meninists, and fragile male tears are not. Y’all have most of the internet, go back to reddit if you can’t handle a space that’s not for you. This space is not for you.
Questions, concerns, and I’m sure hate mail can be sent to ethicalmisandry at gmail dot com
