High and Low Voltage Individuals
Why who you connect with impacts your emotional health a lot more than you might think
Good morning! How often do you apologize for your personality?
Okay, here's the thing: you can't ever be loved by everyone.
It's a tough lesson, but one we seriously need to get through our heads; we are unique individuals with specific identities, characteristics, and personalities that either attract or offend individuals, based on how they are wired.
No, seriously. No matter how kind or generous or lovely you may be—even if two dozen people were to say that you are their single favorite living human being on the planet—some people simply won't like you, and it won't always be your fault.
I like referring to how energetic someones's personality is by comparing them to the different levels of voltage in electricity. Generally speaking, we can divide people up into the following three categories: low voltage, neutral, and high voltage.
As a high voltage individual, I've recognized that I am very much of an extrovert (or at least have become one after high school), which means I desperately need people to surround myself with to love and be loved by; it's one of the things that absolutely makes my life worth living. When I find someone or something that I really like, I am incredibly passionate, and I generally have an all-or-nothing personality where I'm either all-in with my friendships or I pull back and keep myself at a distance, both for my sake and for the sake of the low-voltage individuals.
My neutral friends are amazing. Although they themselves aren't high voltage persons, my two best friends are neutral enough that they can handle my extra, over-the-top personality, and yet they themselves do not need to be as energetic. Also, they are able to connect far better with low-voltage individuals that I myself have trouble with.
Low voltage people, on the other hand, are wired very differently. Although they might be attracted by a HV person's bright light and vision and determination and passion and drive, they tend to want to go back to their rooms and read a book or enjoy some introverted time. These people, as amazing as they also can be in their own rights, are often at risk for being "burnt" by the high voltage of someone that's super energetic, and at times, they can split up with their friends who've become too HV.
Now, here's the thing. Regardless of which category you fit into, you can be an amazing person and you can have awesome friends, but you need to be careful who you connect with. HV and LV should keep each other at arm's length for the protection of both their sakes; the HV person shouldn't ever apologize for being too much, and the LV person shouldn't have to sacrifice their emotional health to please the HV.
Be yourself, and surround yourself with the right people for you. That's how you live life to the fullest.
God bless you, have a great day!