The Golden Rule

How we teach others how to treat us by the choices we make

Good morning! Would you rather people politely lie to you or tell you the truth?

It has been said that we teach people how to treat us.

When we lead with honesty, transparency, and engage in deep conversation wherein we are not afraid to share personal details with others, we show them the level of conversation which we wish to have, giving them the option to either say, “This friendship is not for me,” or to reciprocate with the same effort.

Seneca the Younger, a philosopher well known in the Stoic community, quoted someone else saying, “If you wish to be loved, love.”

Whatever it is you want from other people, do so to them, and they will reciprocate and match you with what you give them.

So, if you want people just to be polite and tell you what you want to hear, you can do that, simply by beginning a friendship upon meaningless flattery and praise, but if you choose to do so, you must be aware that the people involved in those friendships will not tell you the truth.

If you would prefer that people instead tell you the raw, unfiltered truth, then lead by initiating conversations with the truth. If you want people not to lie to you, simply don’t lie to them; it won’t weed out everyone that lies, but it will generally teach those around you to be truthful with you because you’ll do the same for them.

I guess, in the end, it really all does circle back to what Jesus said: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

God bless you, have a great day!