Tough Conversations & Relational Complaints

While it’s so much easier to always just get new relationships instead of mending existing ones, great relationships are worth the effort.

Good morning!

Have you ever complained about one of your relationships to someone?

Okay, before you even try to deny it, let’s admit that yes, all of us have done it. One of the people closest to us in our lives has caused us harm, and we, in our hurt, instead of going straight to the person and saying, “Hey, you hurt me,” thought it would be a safer option to instead talk to someone else about it.

I had a series of difficult conversations last week, and one of the highlights was when I discovered something through one of these conversations: “If you complain about our relationships to me, we’re working on our relationship. If you complain about me to anyone else, we’re not working on our relationship. It’s as simple as that.”

Listen, I have a deep love in my heart for my friends and the people closest to me; if I have unintentionally caused harm to somebody, there’s a chance it’s a blind spot, and I want to clarify my heart and rectify whatever I’ve done wrong, always pursuing peace with those around me.

Now, I don’t know about you, but I don’t really mind confrontation because I know that when both parties equally care, it will eventually lead to healing. So, as far as I and my relationships are concerned, my preference is that if anyone has any issue with me, I would love for them to bring it up to me so I could talk it out with them.

I mean, think about it for your own life: wouldn’t it suck if you hurt someone and they shied away from you and walked out of your life and you never even got a chance to be confronted about what you did wrong so you could try to mend the relationship?

Difficult conversations have become very anti-status quo. It’s far easier to get something new than to repair something that’s broken, but I believe it to be much more fulfilling. I want you to live life to the fullest, and I believe that difficult conversations are a requirement for that.

So, this morning, as you read this, perhaps think: who do I need to have a loving but difficult conversation with to make amends and create peace in my relationships with those around me?

Thanks for reading; God bless you, have a great beginning of your week!

(P.S. Please let me know how I could best partner with you in prayer, I would love to pray for you.)

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