Your Thinking Is Holding You Back

Why we need to stop getting in the way of ourselves

I’ve spent a great deal of my life getting in my way — I’m sure I’m not unusual.

After all–and research and common sense confirm this–what we do is impacted by the beliefs we hold, even when they are far from accurate.

The pandemic has been disastrous for so many, but it forced me to change. I had no choice. With my old job gone, I needed to find a new way of earning an income — I had to change my beliefs about who I am.

Letting go of how I saw myself was urgent — driven by necessity.

After all, losing my salary forced a rethink. I needed to be bold and take the step to being someone more authentic, vulnerable, and potentially more employable.

Working on my ikigai (the Japanese practice of finding purpose in our lives) helped. I asked myself:

  • What am I good at?
  • What do I love doing?
  • What does the world need?
  • What can I get paid for?

Fortunately, around that time, a regular writing opportunity arrived with a superb online psychology resource. It felt fresh, genuine, and they were doing something to make lives better. Yet it was hard — I had to think differently about myself and what defines me. With my regular day to day routine out the window, I needed to find a new way.

And that’s what I did.

My new workday begins early. 5.30 am starts give me two hours of uninterrupted work before my daughter gets up. But I now have time to take her to school and pick her up, writing in the gaps between, and after she goes to bed at night.

To become the new me has taken hard work. The old me would not let go without a fight.

I took a risk to become a better version of myself, and so far, it’s paying off.

Psychologist in Human Performance. Writing about positive psychology and the science of mind to better understand human potential. Owner

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