Are You a Sober Jerk? Am I?

The recovery community isn’t always as supportive as it should be.

Benya Clark
Exploring Sobriety

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This essay originally appeared in the Exploring Sobriety newsletter.

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The Good

I truly believe that one of the most important parts of getting sober is connecting with other recovering addicts. That can be through traditional means, like in-person peer meetings, or through modern means, like online forums or chat rooms. One way or another, though, forming these connections is a practically essential part of overcoming addiction.

I spent years trying to get sober on my own. I believed that I could quit drinking for good without any help, despite a mountain of evidence to the contrary.

It was only after I started meeting other alcoholics — mostly through in-person meetings and Reddit — that I finally made any real progress. Not only did I receive support, but I learned tons of invaluable techniques to help me through sobriety. (Many of which I’ve written about in this newsletter before, so make sure to check out the archive if you’ve missed any old editions.)

There’s no question in my mind: If I had kept trying to do it on my own, I’d still be drinking today. It is thanks to many helpful and caring fellow addicts that I was able to quit drinking and I have…

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Benya Clark
Exploring Sobriety

I’m a lawyer turned writer from North Carolina. I write about sobriety, mental health, and more. Subscribe to my weekly newsletter at exploringsobriety.com.