Can You Really Form a New Habit in 21 Days?
Chances are good it will take a bit longer than 3 weeks to change a habit, but that doesn't mean you should be discouraged
You may have heard the advice that it takes 21 days to build a new habit. Three short weeks of performing a new behavior, and just like magic, you are transformed.
There are countless apps and self-help gurus spouting the wisdom of the 21-day habit. But is this true? Can you make a habit automatic in just 21 days? The answer, it turns out, is a bit more complicated.
Where did the 21-day habit idea come from?
The widely accepted 21-day habit theory came from the plastic surgeon, Maxwell Maltz. In the 1950s, he noticed that it took his patients about 21 days to get used to their new looks. He examined his own behavior and determined that it also took him about 21 days to form a new habit.
In 1960, he published his book, Psycho-Cybernetics, A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life. In the book, he published his famous quote,
“These, and many other commonly observed phenomena tend to show that it requires a minimum of about 21 days for an old mental image to dissolve and a new one to jell.”
This was all it took to get the public’s attention on forming new habits. The 1960s was the decade where popular psychology became prevalent. Self-help experts simplified the message of the 21 days minimum and turned it into 21 days total. This caught the public’s attention. The 21-day habit-forming myth was born and it’s still widely referenced today.
It’s compelling to think you can make a major change in 3 short weeks. And in some cases, it may be possible. But stating that 21 days is all you need to make a major life change can lead to disappointment. It’s easy to feel like a failure when it sounds so easy to transform, but you find you can’t get there in the allotted amount of time.
How long do habits take to become automatic?
I feel certain that if I decided the new habit I want to make automatic is eating a cookie for dessert every night, I would not need 21 days to get hooked on it. Conversely, if I want to eliminate sugar from my diet, I know I’m going to struggle with that one for much longer than 21 days.
And this is exactly what the research has shown us. There is not a magic number of days you need to form a new habit. How long it takes to make a habit automatic for you depends on how difficult the habit is.
In 2009, researchers from the University College of London studied habit-forming in 96 people over 12 weeks. The study, conducted by Phillippa Lally and her colleagues, concluded that the average time it takes to form a new habit is about 66 days. The times varied from 18 days to up to 254.
The good news from the study is that missing a day of the new habit did not affect the habit-forming process. The takeaway here is that you can expect difficult habits to take much longer to become automatic than 21 days. But if you have a bad day in the middle of it, don’t let it throw you off track. One botched day won’t have a big effect on how long it takes you to complete your goal.
What is takes for habit-forming
It’s not a one size fits all magic number. How long it takes you to form a new habit depends on the difficulty of the habit, and on you. Your motivation, your willpower, your circumstances, will all have an effect.
According to the New York Times business writer, Charles Duhigg, every habit has a three-part process. His 2012 book, The Power of Habit explores the science of habit-forming. Charles believes that habits must have a trigger, a routine, and a reward to become automatic behavior.
When a habit becomes automatic, your brain goes into sleep mode while performing it. This is how you can drive through traffic while listening to podcasts. You don’t have to be mentally aware of the process once it becomes automatic.
Charles states that 40% of our daily lives are filled with habits, not decisions. Once you realize the importance of habits and begin to make positive changes, it becomes easier and easier. He found that habits can be contagious, and making a small change, like eating an apple every day leads people to adopt other healthy lifestyle factors.
Why you shouldn’t be discouraged
It may seem disheartening to think the 21-day rule is not realistic, at least for big changes that make a difference in your life. But don’t let it discourage you. You should feel hopeful because all this research shows that you really can make changes, it’s just not going to be an exact formula.
Your common sense tells you a major change takes a lot of work and you can’t expect miracles in only three weeks. But this doesn’t mean you should give up.
The science shows us that it’s possible to make a new habit automatic in your life. It’s probably going to take longer than three weeks. And if you have an off day, don’t beat yourself up, you can start again the next day knowing that you have not derailed your plans.
Think of the task of forming your new habit as a process. It’s a journey to get there, and you’re going to have setbacks along the way. It may take 3 weeks, it may take 8 months. But it’s not going to happen at all if you don’t get started. Today can be your day one.
