10 Signs Your Mother is a Narcissist
Is it you or her?
You’ve always wondered what’s wrong.
Is it me or her?
A narcissistic mother can cause you to doubt yourself. Her manipulation is often skilled and subtle. She doesn’t brook disappointment, or dissent.
Top Ten Signs That Your Mother is a Narcissist
- She wants to control you.
Trying to assert yourself results in anger, rejection and hostility. She doesn’t appreciate your attempts to individuate as it means you are going to be less available to serve her needs. Does she get angry when you disagree or don’t want to do what she wants you to do? Does she try to make you feel guilty for having separate interests, hobbies, desires and opinions?
2. Her love is conditional.
A mother who is narcissistic is interested in how you (and your achievements) reflect on her. She wants you to succeed, but only so that she looks good. She may even become jealous if she feels you are doing too well. Daughters of narcissistic mothers will often be perfectionistic in a misguided attempt to win their mother’s love.
3. She can’t or wont validate your feelings.
