Dear Son, Your Father’s Absence Is Not for a Lack of Love

“It is in those fleeting moments of rejection, that my heart mourns for what could have been a beautiful father-son relationship, if not for your dad’s vocation of being a doctor.”

Victoria-Marie
Family Matters

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Photo by Liane Metzler on Unsplash

Dear M,

You turn two at the end of the month. My heart swells with joy marveling at your presence, your energetic spirit, and your ever-growing penchant for making your mother’s heart stop with your active antics and miraculous need for little sleep to function. Your existence has undoubtedly changed our world — and I can’t believe you’ve only been here for two years. As your awareness grows, and your sensitivity to people’s presence, spirit, and intimacy with you sharpens, there are some important things that I would love for you to know, as your mind may wander to these places in more difficult times.

You were born in a strange world, where people’s faces are covered, and many fell terribly ill. While we have so far been spared from this overbearing disease, our lives have been affected in other ways. The people you spent the most time with, were with me, your ah-ma and kong kong, and uncles. We were incredibly lucky that ah-ma and kong kong had a house big enough for all of us to live in. That in…

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Victoria-Marie
Family Matters

Linguist. Writer. Mum. Currently navigating life with intense sleep deprivation, and learning how to still do what I love - teaching and parenting.