The Surprising Reason You Shouldn’t Force Kids to Be Affectionate

You’re teaching them their body isn’t their own.

Chloe Cuthbert
Feb 17, 2020 · 4 min read

Ninety percent of children who are victims of sexual abuse know their abuser, thirty percent of which are family members.

While we’re teaching our children to be concerned about strangers, we’re ignoring an insidious problem within our homes and families.

The same uncle she forced me to hug when he came over for dinner.

Forty percent of children who are sexually abused are abused by older or more powerful children.

The younger the child victim, the more likely it is that the perpetrator is a juvenile.

Although no child is immune, there are child and family characteristics that significantly heighten or lower risk of sexual abuse.

  • Family structure is the most important risk factor in child sexual abuse, according to experts. Children who live with two married biological parents are at low risk for abuse.
  • Children in foster care are ten times more likely to be sexually abused than children who live at home.
  • Children who live with a single parent with a live-in parnter are the the highest risk, 20 times more likely than children living with both biological parents.
  • Gender is also a major factor. Females are five times more likely to be abused than males.
  • Age is significant, while there is a risk for children of all ages, children are must vulnerable to abuse between the ages of seven and 13.
  • Race and ethnicity are important. African American children have almost twice the risk of sexual abuse than white children. Children of Hispanic ethnicity have a slightly greater risk than non-Hispanic white children.
  • It triples the risk for sexual abuse for children whose parents are not in the labor force.
  • Children in low socioeconomic satus households are three times as kikely to be identified as a victim.
  • Children who live in rural areas are almost two times more likely to be identified as victims.
  • Children who witness or are the victim of other crimes are significantly more likely to be sexually abused.

Perpetrators look for specific circumstances.

  • They look for passive, quiet, troubled, and lonely children.
  • They seek children who are trusting. Frequently, this means seeking friendships with the family.

Teaching a child they’re not allowed to speak their mind quiets them when they need their voice the most.

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Chloe Cuthbert

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Family Matters

A publication for parents and families of all types to share their experiences.

Chloe Cuthbert

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I think, therefore, I write. ccuthbertauthor@gmail.com /Posts may contain affiliate links.

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A publication for parents and families of all types to share their experiences.

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