Society often compares love to war. In this war, you’ll find yourself fighting for love and who you choose to love. Sometimes, you find yourself fighting yourself when it comes to the ability to love. Inevitably, the most complex aspect of this war is fighting to stay in love.

I tend to view love a little different.

In fashion, at least three things really count. The cut, color and proportion of a garment. The cut is what flatters the shape. The proportion defines the garment to the body. The color is what attracts the viewer. This is how I view love.

I’m not mainly referring to physical attributes. The same way we can fall in love with a garment of clothing is really the same process of how we fall in love with another human being. The way the individual is cut, where they come from, experiences, where they've been and what they’re about may spark something internally. The proportion of the individuals thoughts defines the depth of their soul. Do they think for the future or just for now? Are the stuck in one period of time? Most importantly, what is the color of their soul? This means what naturally attracts them to you. This could be physically, emotionally or both. Sometimes, this can be a mystery. This attraction can be undefined but all you know is that your creative matches the individuals creative. ☺

When you run into that piece of clothing that you been searching for high and low, maybe for an extended period of time, the feeling is incomparable. Isn't it the same with people? How frustrating is it when we can’t find anything to wear? Some people wear clothes that are not flattering to their shape, too small or too revealing. Hopefully, that will change and you look back and ponder, “What was I thinking?”

We all change and grow. Our growth encompasses physical features, emotional wants, and combined needs. In one of my previous articles, I refer to my closet as a story line. We out grow people like we out grow clothing. Nonetheless, there will always be those items you’ll have forever. Lately, I've been out growing my suggested type of person. I've learn that physical characteristics are always pretty to look at but eventually they will get old if they don’t accompany anything else. I need a package! The arguments, the mishaps, the unfortunate situations, the confusion, the PRIDE will happen. If it’s not worth it, shake the dust off your feet and regain your happiness. Clean out your closet and start over. Change and Growth are inevitable factors of life. So if you don’t have someone working through those changes with you there is no need for them to hang around. I have had many of my close associates, even my best friends speak to me about the agony, the confusion, the downhearted moments of trying to shop the mall of love. All the fireworks I was hearing translated into growing pains. It really hurts me to hear people go through those pangs of finding true love, especially if I can relate. I have all the faith that each and everyone will find the right fit!

In conclusion, my theory of love is every time you open your heart to someone, you’re truly taking a chance. Every time, we open our heart to someone, we are taking a risk that our heart could be broken. Yes, it’s a risk factor. Most people become love entrepreneurs. We can have the right cut, color and proportion so to speak and eventually something could fall apart. If you can truly understand that, you will be better equipped to handle a breakup or experience even more joy when the relationship last. No one is perfect. So my advice, with everybody you love there will be something you don’t like. It’s life! Don’t be so quick to disqualify someone off of one thing you may not like. There could be a thousand things you do like and will “shadow” that one thing you don’t care for enabling you to deal with it. We will never find someone perfect. A lot of times, we say were not looking for someone that’s perfect, and in fact we are.