Andrew Gray Has Been Called Out for Being a Narcissistic and Abusive Partner
The former power rangers actor’s newest gig is in the show Bling Empire and viewers are not happy with his behavior
Over the weekend my partner and I put on our cozy pajamas, ordered a pizza, and decided to turn on Netflix.
We started streaming The Bling Empire and even though I normally am not a fan of reality TV, I cannot deny that I was hooked. Perhaps part of this is because the show seemed to have more heart than what I’ve seen in the past with reality TV as they are dealing with topics such as surrogacy and adoption.
Yet there is one part of the show that made me so uncomfortable and anxious that I had to look away at times because it reminded me so much of a toxic person from my past.
Andrew and Kelly’s relationship.
I haven’t even finished the season of the show. But I saw enough in a few episodes to recognize the signs of a manipulative and narcissistic abuser.
Let me walk you through all of the toxic behaviors Andrew exhibits towards Kelly and what viewers are saying after the show has reached the #1 spot on Netflix.
He literally has a screaming breakdown because she let him sleep in so she could go shopping… for her birthday
This part is important. It is important because we are able to hear Andrew's verbal outbursts and he didn’t know anyone else was listening.
It is also important because narcissists are known for ruining special occasions such as holidays or birthdays.
Kelly’s friend Anna whisks a group of them off to France to celebrate in part, Kelly’s birthday.
Anna offers to take Kelly shopping and because he is exhausted and jet-lagged, she leaves but doesn’t wake him so that Andrew can rest.
Then suddenly, he is calling her and the next scene is painful for anyone that has been verbally abused.
“What the f*ck is going on?” he screams over the phone at Kelly over a meaningless disagreement. “Your lack of effort drives me f*cking crazy.” Kelly looks embarrassed. She later admits this isn’t the first time Andrew has lashed out this way or spoken to her this way. -Men’s Health
Although we cannot see what Andrew is doing it sounds like he is throwing things and causing a mess in his fit of rage. It’s the first sign of many that he is not in a healthy mental space.
He constantly gaslights Kelly trying to spin it to be her fault
Andrew agrees to start seeing a psychotherapist with Kelly after the Paris events but all it does is showcase that he isn’t ready to be in a healthy relationship because he continually blames Kelly for everything.
Blame is constantly placed on Kelly until she ends up questioning whether or not what happened was her fault.
After the Paris incident, we witness Andrew and Kelly at a party and several of her concerned friends ask her about what is happening and why she is still with him.
Andrew becomes increasingly angry as he realizes that she is talking about what transpired in Paris.
“ A flashback to their argument shows Andrew telling Kelly she didn’t show him “any respect”, saying “I don’t know why you want to hurt our relationship.” — The Tab
Later he angrily confronts her and tells her that she shouldn’t be telling her friends what happened in their relationship. She answers him that she normally doesn’t but some of her friends were there. The argument ends with her leaving the room to take a moment and Andrew says she is abandoning her once again.
He lovebombs Kelly to try to get her back
Throughout the show we witness Andrew being extremely loving and affectionate both before and after he screams at Kelly and cuts her down verbally.
At a certain point, Kelly has the strength to cut things off with Andrew and tells him to move out and that she needs space but Andrew doesn’t seem to respect her wishes.
They meet up and he tells her that she is his best friend, and how important she is in his life, and that he loves her. He tells her that he is sorry and that it won’t happen again and that he can’t live without her. Even though it seems extremely apparent that he is just saying what he thinks she wants to hear, as there is almost no real emotion in his words, she listens and takes them to heart.
Viewers are not taking to this relationship kindly which gives me hope
Watching Kelly go through this manipulative roller-coaster was far from easy.
I have been in her shoes. I have loved someone so much and hoped that he would change with every fiber of my being. I have opened the door for someone time and time again when I really needed to leave it locked shut.
But what I am loving about this is the fact that the internet and viewers are not happy. They are calling Andrew out on his behavior and stating that Kelly needs to leave her abuser.
Many of us have been in Kelly’s shoes before. Although everyone on the outside tells us that we deserve more and that we need to end a toxic relationship… we don’t want to listen because we hope that our love is enough to save someone.
As of today, it’s uncertain if Kelly and Andrew are still together as the show was filmed in 2019. However, it appears they are still friends on social media and Andrew has posted pictures of the dog that they got together.
My hope is that Kelly has been able to move on with her life and has stopped accepting Andrew back. If that isn’t the case, I hope that someday soon, she is able to recognize her worth and will stop accepting abuse that is poorly disguised as love.