Five Reasons Stonewalling Could Be Present In Your Relationship
Communication is essential for connection and blocking it off is detrimental
Stonewalling.
It was a completely foreign term to me until a few years ago when I went through an unhealthy and abusive relationship.
I didn’t have a word to describe the fact that it felt like I was talking to someone who never heard me. I didn’t have an explanation for the erratic behavior my ex would exude if I brought up any of my thoughts or feelings.
It turns out that I was being stonewalled by the best of them.
“Different from an occasional timeout to calm down or collect your thoughts, stonewalling is an absolute refusal to consider your partner’s perspective. If you listen at all, you do it dismissively or contemptuously.” -Psychology Today
The refusal to communicate is one of the deadliest things you can do to any relationship.
However, I am not innocent when it comes to my own communication tactics in the past or present. I have certainly done my fair share of stonewalling in relationships without even realizing I was doing or, or realizing the damage it was doing to my partner.
