Guys, Stop Calling Your Girlfriend “Needy and Clingy”
Having needs doesn’t make you needy.
Recently, one of my guy friends was complaining that his girlfriend was being “needy and clingy.” This friend of mine, J, doesn’t normally talk about his girlfriend, E, like this.
The times he’s talked about her in the past, he’s always said positive things: She accepts him for who he is. He can be himself around her. He’s told her all his dark secrets, and she’s never made him feel embarrassed or ashamed of them.
Besides this wonderful quality of accepting him for who he is, Elisa has a very compatible relationship style and similar goals as Luke.
“We want the exact same thing,” J told me once. “We both want to be virtual nomads and travel the world.”
Unfortunately, the specifics of their “exact same” wants didn’t turn out to be so exactly the same.
They hit the road about a month ago — and now they are finding that they travel differently.
They went to Hawaii planning to stay anywhere from two weeks to six months or even a year. He’s found that he loves Hawaii.
He’s learning to cliff dive, jumping into the ocean from heights of ten feet above the water…
