I Ghosted My Friend For Saying I “Dressed Like a Slut”

He told me he could say that “because he was gay”. And no, he wasn’t being cute.

Evelyn Martinez
Fearless She Wrote

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Photo courtesy of the author. I call this look “The Offender”

I have a question for you. Have you ever been so astounded by the words spewing from someone’s mouth all you could do was stare?

I ask because I found an old shirt in my closet today, black, long-sleeved, low-cut, one I wore as a uniform when I used to deal cards. The shirt jogged a few memories. Namely, the last day I wore it, and my “friend” Mark told me I “dressed like a slut”.

And I want to talk about why that word pissed me off.

Maybe I’m a rarity, but I don’t care what people wear. Please tell me I’m not alone because judging someone for the clothes on their back is crazy.

When I dealt bar blackjack, my boss let us wear whatever we wanted (within reason). These dress-code standards aren’t the norm, of course. I worked in the night-life industry. There’s a time and place for certain kinds of dress. But my employer understood the fundamental concept a woman’s wardrobe doesn’t impede the quality of her work. And I say “woman” because how often do you see men get judged for what they wear? Prove me wrong, please. I’ve never seen it happen.

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Evelyn Martinez
Fearless She Wrote

Eviemwrites on Tiktok. Former blackjack dealer. Reader beware — you’re in for a scare!-R.L. Stine.