In Dating, “No, Thank You” Is Not the Start of a Negotiation
There’s a fine line between courting someone and harassment.
Springtime in Berlin
“Hey, how are you doing?” I looked up from my phone and saw a man who I did not know. From his stance, I could see he was trying to make an advance. I applaud his bravery, as rejection always lurks around the corner.
“What are you doing?” he asked.
“Oh, I’m reading,” I replied.
The second he asked me how I was, I was ready to fight him. Of course, I kept my cool and stayed polite. No need for any escalation just yet.
“The weather is great! How about enjoying the sun together?” he continued.
“No thank you, I’m fine on my own.”
“But wouldn’t it be nicer to enjoy it together?”
“I'm good. I want to enjoy the sun alone. But I thank you for inviting me”.
…. (suspense with the few seconds that passed)
“No problem, have a great day!”
“Thank you, you too!”
And off he went.
I was in shock! This was it?
