The Weird Ways of The Abusive Narcissist

How to identify the ingredients in the ‘crazy-making soup’

Ena Dahl
Don’t Believe a Word She Says
8 min readJan 24, 2020

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You’re living in an alternate reality where up is down and down is up, and you’ve long forgotten what’s what.

You might think you’re going mental if you haven’t already, and your partner’s suggestion to get yourself checked out by a professional—because you’re hysterical—is sounding more reasonable every day.

You’re convinced that you love this person and can’t live without them, but on the other hand, you’re not entirely sure you even like them anymore; why does your stomach turn to knots every time you approach your shared home?

You fight, but you’ve lost track of why and what about.

Most of the time you fight about the fact that you’re fighting, and you never get to the bottom of anything.

Each battle follows the same old script, which main points you can recite by heart. You know what’s next and when you’ve hit the point of no return; when your only real option is to ride the wave until it comes crashing down—an hour, or a few, later.

Because of their predictability, the fights barely make you cry like you used to. Mostly, they exhaust you and drain…

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Ena Dahl
Don’t Believe a Word She Says

Multidisciplinary creatrix; conscious kink & sensuality coach, educator, author, energy worker & rope (s)witch.