Was It Rape If He Lied to Get My Consent?
Feminist law scholars say if a man fraudulently procures consent, it isn’t consent. And that’s rape.
Darryl and I met at a bar. I was twenty-three years old; he was twenty-five. I liked him immediately. He was cute, funny, and seemed to really like me, too.
I was thrilled when he asked for my number. He began to call me every night on the phone. We had deep conversations about our lives.
I told him about the traumatic end of my last relationship and how breaking up with my boyfriend left me with so much anxiety that I had to drop out of college for a trimester. Darryl talked about his ex, too — about how long it took him to recover from their breakup.
He spoke about this woman in the past tense. Little did I know, this girlfriend still existed. However, he wasn’t honest about her, even though during our phone conversations, I made it clear that I wanted a boyfriend — somebody who was available — not someone who already had a girlfriend.
Darryl asked me out. We met up for dinner and had a wonderful time. We ended up back at his place, falling easily into bed together.
I loved kissing him, loved feeling his hands on my naked body. At that moment, I loved everything about him.
