I don’t remember the first time that I was told to cross my legs, but I am fairly sure that it was during Sunday church service. I was probably wearing a scratchy dress and most likely didn’t have boobs yet.
But still, because I was wearing a dress, I was told to cross my legs.
And somewhere along the way, it didn’t matter if I was wearing a dress or not. It was just really important for me to cross my legs, even in pants. In heels. In flats. At the office. At dinner.
It didn’t matter anymore. I had a vagina and therefore was required to cross my legs.
Well, I’m here to tell you that I am done with all that. I’m not crossing my legs or my ankles and I’m no less of a lady because of it.
Crossing your legs is so damn uncomfortable
Why is no one talking about how uncomfortable this position is? I mean, watch women with their legs crossed. They just keep switching from one leg to the other.
This whole leg-or-ankle-crossing situation is just not natural.
When did this even start? From what I’ve gathered, there are a lot of rules about this in regards to etiquette. Etiquette is what you learn when your parents sign you up for Cotillion, which is absolutely the worst. It’s the 21st century… I do not need to know what all of those forks are for.
Again, it’s 2021. We can be done with 1600s rules on how to sit like a lady in public.
Crossing your legs is not exactly easy when you have larger thighs
Abiding by this leg-crossing rule was much easier when I was in a thinner body. You know, like, before puberty. I could just throw one leg over the other, let it dangle, and not worry about it.
But now that I am living in a larger body with larger thighs, I can’t cross my legs as easily.
So what is the solution here? Am I supposed to wrestle my legs together in order to meet some outdated cultural norm?
Hell no. I’m done with that.
Apparently, crossing our legs is actually bad for our health
I feel like someone should have told me this sooner. Is there any better reason to stop this painful behavior than for the sake of health? It’s time to bring out the big guns.
Here are the ways that crossing your legs is bad for you:
- It’s not good for your circulation. You’re messing with your blood flow, here. It could cause vein inflammation or possible blood clots.
- It messes with your posture. Y’all… sitting this way for long periods of time can cause your pelvis to rotate and tilt. Remind me why we are doing this again?
- It *may* cause spider veins. There is debate about this one, but in the chance that this is possible, I for one would like to avoid this.
Are there health benefits of crossed legs? None that I could find.
I am done with being “lady-like” because society tells me to be that way
What’s the goal here? When I am sitting in a conference room with my legs crossed, does that get me closer to a promotion? Do crossed legs give me a better chance at being taken seriously? What is this getting me?
The truth is that crossing my legs shows that I’m playing by the rules.
And I am done playing by the rules. I’ll sit like a man, thank you. And I tell you what, it feels pretty damn powerful. If there’s a fire in the office, I don’t have to worry about tripping while I attempt to run out of the building. (Unless I’m wearing heels, which I may need to ditch, too.)
After being at home in sweatpants for a year, I’m done with so many of these old office-approved styles. No more heels. No more pencil skirts. No more crossed legs. I can be just as much of a boss while comfortable in loungewear, and you can, too.