Why I Refuse to Cross My Legs Anymore

And, no, I will not be crossing my ankles, either

Gigi Love
Gigi Love
Mar 13 · 4 min read

I don’t remember the first time that I was told to cross my legs, but I am fairly sure that it was during Sunday church service. I was probably wearing a scratchy dress and most likely didn’t have boobs yet.

But still, because I was wearing a dress, I was told to cross my legs.

And somewhere along the way, it didn’t matter if I was wearing a dress or not. It was just really important for me to cross my legs, even in pants. In heels. In flats. At the office. At dinner.

It didn’t matter anymore. I had a vagina and therefore was required to cross my legs.

Crossing your legs is so damn uncomfortable

This whole leg-or-ankle-crossing situation is just not natural.

The etiquette we learned today originated in the 1600s in France.

Again, it’s 2021. We can be done with 1600s rules on how to sit like a lady in public.

Crossing your legs is not exactly easy when you have larger thighs

But now that I am living in a larger body with larger thighs, I can’t cross my legs as easily.

Hell no. I’m done with that.

Apparently, crossing our legs is actually bad for our health

Here are the ways that crossing your legs is bad for you:

  1. It’s not good for your circulation. You’re messing with your blood flow, here. It could cause vein inflammation or possible blood clots.
  2. It messes with your posture. Y’all… sitting this way for long periods of time can cause your pelvis to rotate and tilt. Remind me why we are doing this again?
  3. It *may* cause spider veins. There is debate about this one, but in the chance that this is possible, I for one would like to avoid this.

Are there health benefits of crossed legs? None that I could find.

I am done with being “lady-like” because society tells me to be that way

The truth is that crossing my legs shows that I’m playing by the rules.

After being at home in sweatpants for a year, I’m done with so many of these old office-approved styles. No more heels. No more pencil skirts. No more crossed legs. I can be just as much of a boss while comfortable in loungewear, and you can, too.

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Gigi Love

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This is a space to empower differences, tell our stories, and share our lives together. We will not be silenced. We will be fearless. And we will write.

Gigi Love

Written by

Gigi Love

I have questions (and answers) about sex, love, and pop culture. You too? Join me here: https://gigilove.substack.com

Fearless She Wrote

This is a space to empower differences, tell our stories, and share our lives together. We will not be silenced. We will be fearless. And we will write.

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