We all know that failing is a crucial part of life. I mean what would learning be without failing? I was someone who tried to avoid failing at all costs. I also was someone who wallowed in my failures for maybe longer than I should. These points in my life taught me how to fail gracefully. I noticed I progress wayyy more when I don’t make failing a big deal. Now when I bust my butt I compassionately pick myself back up and look around for what had tripped me. I dissect the experience to find where the lesson lies. Equipping the tool that resides with that lesson. Then I just keep on keepin on with a new shiny tool that will help me through life!

It is not about “being a failure” it is about what can we learn from the experience. The more we are open to not being perfect, the more we can grow. We assume that we are supposed to be born perfect. But the perfection lies in understanding that the thing that makes this life as a human juicy and interesting is the fact that we are always a work in progress. We grow into a higher version of ourselves from these so-called “failures.” I wish we could give it a new name. LOL!

But yea it would take me days to recover from a slip up. I would be in my head and be full of regret. I truly would think something was wrong with me. I am learning that this is just how life goes. This is how we level up through failing and getting back up, failing and getting back up. Which makes sense because then we are going to be able to stay up longer by applying what we learned from failing. What if we can make this ebb and flow fun?

The moral of the story is that it is time to face that hey, we are human. We can’t control anything. We are all a little weird looking. We can all get a little stinky. It is what it is. Hahaha! It is so freeing just to lean into our human nature and use it to our advantage. No more shying away from the truth of life! Thanks for reading! I Love You! Peace!

Before we begin, I just love this picture I chose. Because I mean come on that deer is adores! And It really does show how everything can be going so good. Then that one limiting belief gets out of it’s hiding space like *Waves Hands* “Hey, you forgot to release me too!”

If you have been reading my stories, you know that comfort eating has been an “obstacle” for me. I have eaten for comfort and satisfaction for my whole life. And I been realized that personally, that doesn’t work for me and my body. Even though I knew this, it still was really hard for me to shake this habit.

I asked myself what if the limiting belief isn’t “needing comfort” from food anymore? And instead, it is the underlying belief that it is “really hard for me to release it.” Something clicked for me I was reminded of that saying that says something is only as powerful as you make it.

I acknowledged my triggers around comfort eating and what it is costing me. I looked at this truth and felt blah. But today I woke up and acted like this belief was never even real. Like I aint know what a “comfort eating” was. LOL!

I replaced that old belief with “food is fuel.” When I am met with a craving I really flex my “ummm No Thank You.” Muscle. It feels good to take my power back. It’s like I had to remember that I don’t have to do anything I don’t like.

I am glad for how long it took me to realize this though. Because you know sometimes we just aren’t ready to release things. And trying to release something prematurely can feel disheartening. (Trust me I tried Haha.) But it feels like the perfect time for me to just make my peace with this belief I have had for so long and say Sayonara!

Thanks for readin’! I Love Ya! Peace!

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So, has life ever smacked ya right across the face and showed you what you needed to stop or start doing? Or have you ever had to learn a lesson the hard way? Or has someone ever had to be so truthful with you and tell you about something that has been in your blind spot?

This type of situation happened to me recently. My Spirit Team put someone in my path to let me know that although I have released a lot of my people-pleasing tendencies. I am still allowing people to steamroll me good.

Now automatically when I heard this truth. I was aware of myself beginning to act as if I “should’ve already known better.” I wanted just to quit. I wanted to just say “FORGET THIS! I AM DONE.” Thoughts started to ask “Why do I always do everything wrong?” But the thing is that I am NOT supposed to know what I have to work on before it is highlighted. That takes all the fun out of learning! But it just reminds me of my childhood because there was a point when I stopped trusting myself to make my own decisions. I would run all of my decisions by my mother before I did most things. I feel that I started to do this because of how I would be punished for making the “wrong decisions.” Before I could even fully know better I would be punished. So, I think my relationship with making my own choices was chattered at an early age.

This leads me to say that flowing with life means allowing and adjusting to the adjustments life brings. Even if it seems like something that should’ve been common sense. Accepting it will cut out the controlling middleman who needs us & everything to be culturally perfect. Regretting something doesn’t help at all it only makes us feel like a bag of poop. Everything is meant to happen exactly how it needs to. It doesn’t matter if we thought we knew better at the time. It needed to happen so we could see that maybe we didn’t see the full picture at the time and that is okay.

I used to see it as life handing me a BIG FAT F and that’s it. But life is actually handing me a new assignment to accomplish. Sometimes our greatest lessons are the ones where we fail the test first and then course correct. I am learning to have more fun with the learning aspect of life… instead of yelling at the top of my lungs and having a temper tantrum. LOL! Thanks for reading! Peace!

Oh gosh, I am going through a time where I have to let go. I have to let go of the place I thought would be my forever home. My village. You know it is a huge paradigm shift when you realize that the family you were born into wasn’t able to give you the love you truly deserved.

I went through many stages. Stages of disbelief, sadness, anger, confusion. For a long time, it felt as if I kept turning away from the finish line to try to help them see. So, they can come with me to this new life I am manifesting.

You know I never thought I would ever do this. I grew up believing that family is everything. You never cut family off, that is all you have. As a kid, I loved my family with my whole entire heart. I knew I would never hurt or leave them. I was the glue that helped everything together. But now that I am older, I actually see and have a say in what I do and don’t deserve.

I am tired of trying to fit into this family dynamic I have outgrown. I am tired of people-pleasing. I am tired of being a buffer for my family’s uncomfortable situations. I am tired of being the one to make everyone laugh when they’re stressed. I am done putting people’s needs before mine. I am done acting okay with my family talking behind my back. I am just done. I don’t deserve this. I see that clearly now that I have tapped into a newfound love for myself.

I deserve to be surrounded by people who see me for me. People who don’t care that I am different and actually inspire me to embrace that. People who value, appreciate, support, and celebrate the true me! Done shrinking. Time to cut some cords. Family or not I can’t stand around and watch people hurt me anymore. I am clearing out to make room for new. Saying “No” to find my “Yes”.

Thank you for reading! I Love You! Peace!

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You know those times when we feel way behind? Like we should’ve “been” let go of that habit, or stop talking to that person . This may be the most irritating thing as a human. The point where half of us want to really let go of something. And the other half is holding on for dear life. Waking up every day to the uncomfortable tug of war going on inwardly. It can feel like a battle. And sometimes it seems we will never win.

Our success is inevitable with repetition. We don’t need unlimited motivation or willpower. All that is needed to win is for us to repeat repeat repeat. Show up show up show up. And it doesn’t even have to be every day. It is just the action of trying again.

We don’t have to ever worry about never overcoming this obstacle. Because just having this desire gives us the signal that it is meant to happen. And when we don’t give up and accept that truth then our success is promised. When I say “don’t give up” I don’t mean that we can’t take a break. Breaks are always needed. But I do mean to have that constant knowing that we WILL go knocking on that door again after licking our wounds.

The more we fail the more we get closer to succeeding. When we fail, the part of us that doesn’t want to fail gets stronger and stronger. This is how we evolve and become a heavy-weight champ.

It’s like a video game. Maybe we are on the level where we have to fight the boss. If we don’t defeat them the first time, we can try again…. and again… and again. Ultimately there will be a time we will be able to beat that boss with our eyes closed. Because we practiced… because we got defeated and kept trying again over and over. We notice their signature moves and figure out which one of our moves depletes their energy the most.

We get to the point where it is not even an obstacle anymore but a threshold you can step right over. If you are going through this tug of war within you right now I want to say I love you and keep going. If you ever feel as if you might not make it, let me tell you right now that it is an illusion because YOU WILL! Thanks for reading! Peace!

Oh gosh, I just got the famous “Inner Work” book, and OMGGG! It is so simple and amazing. It is like I see exactly where I am on my spiritual journey. I began to read the wounds that are relatable to me. And I am not even going to lie to you, I felt a bit triggered. This means progress and that this book is totally worth buying LOL! I think my mind is realizing that I’m about to retire my old way of thinking with a new and improved one. So, it is hitting me with the best it has currently. Striving to stay “alive”.

One wound that I am currently reading and working through is the wound of inadequacy. This wound is based on needing and wanting constantly. I sometimes place responsibility upon external things to make me feel certain emotions I feel I may “lack”. It is as simple as getting something sweet to eat when I’m sad. The book lists many possible traumas but the one that resonated with me the most was “being withheld from”.

I feel a lot of us have this because I mean as children we depend solely on our Guardians (An external person). And sometimes they may be going through their own traumas. And can’t be there for us as much as we want them to be. This can make us feel as if feelings such as Love, happiness, and comfort are scarce. Innocently turning to other external things to fill that void. We begin to link how we feel to what happens to us externally.

It becomes a cycle of feeling satisfied and then dissatisfied. It says in the book that the feelings we believe external things give us are a reflection of what is already within us. I mean how are we feeling it in the first place if it is not already somewhere within us? Our mind thinks as if we only can create certain feelings externally. This can lead to suffering because it is not reliable. Life is forever changing, anything outside of us can disappear at any second.

Healing this is realizing that all we desire to feel is already inside. That we are the most reliable source to go to when looking for something. We hold boundless goodness within us, it is our birthright. We just have to go inward and open to tapping into it. Feeling good was never something that could be “taken away”. We are abundantly equipped to create the main emotions we would like to feel daily. I will do a Part 2 on how I practice creating my own happiness within. Just gotta do a little inward digging first LOL! Thanks for reading! I Love You! Peace!