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            <title><![CDATA[Why should womem need to be better than men to deserve a seat at the table?]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Fri, 09 Nov 2018 21:51:17 GMT</pubDate>
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            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Gender equality should not be conditional. Women are half the population, therefore we should be given half the seats at the table. Yet, I keep on hearing that “<em>they won’t necessarily be better than men</em>”. No they will not, and that is not what gender equality is about. <br> <br>“<em>How is this still a thing?</em>”, “<em>Why do we need to fight for this? Are we not in 2018?</em>”. Every day, my news feed brings up a range of hot topics related to the place of women in our society that often leaves me with these reactions. The only good thing that I take out of these questions is that it shows gender equality is one of the most discussed issues of our time. Indeed, giving women more visibility — in leadership positions, panels, in the media, or in any area where they lack representation — has become a major concern in many parts of our society. But arguing that women will not necessarily make things better both for the world and for women shows that gender equality is not well understood.<br> <br>We should not expect women to necessarily be better than men. Men have taken wrong decisions for centuries — impacting all human beings, earth and societies — yet no one has ever blamed their gender to justify their wrongdoings. Let us not start doing it for women.<br> <br>Additionally, expecting women to only participate in feminist issues is dangerous: whether or not they are given consideration should not be dependent on how much feminist content they add. Although the military has nothing to do with feminism, the British Defence Secretary, Gavin Williamson, lawfully acknowledged that men and women should have equal chances to access employment and to add their voice, even within the highest bodies of leadership. All UK military roles, including within the elite SAS and frontline infantry, are <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2018/oct/25/all-roles-in-uk-military-to-be-open-to-women-williamson-announces">now open to women</a>. Objecting to this will only work to continue male domination.<br> <br>Having said all that, gender equality is not about copying men’s attributes — culture, values, characteristics — and pasting them onto women. They will not fit into this male frame, and they don’t have to. Gender equality is about hearing women as much as we hear men but also acknowledging their failures. On this last point though, we are certain no one will pass them up.</p><p>This article was originally published in and for <a href="https://mailchi.mp/016f953f930d/making-womens-voices-heard-452619?e=dd8df3ce8d">Women in Foreign Policy </a>newsletter, 9 November 2018.</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=c745c8c7559e" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Twitter, what do you want?]]></title>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Dona B.]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Fri, 25 May 2018 23:01:30 GMT</pubDate>
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            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>24/05/2018. 16:14, London.</p><p>I received a notification on my phone from CNN. Headline: “Women accuse Morgan Freeman of inappropriate behaviour, harassment”. I already knew the content of the article I was about to read. My first reaction was a long sigh expressing a mix of despair and tiredness. But not because of what you think.</p><p>My exasperation did not come from the fact that the article, of that I was certain, would be another apparition of this certain je-ne-sais-quoi that gives some men the illusion that they can dispose of women’s bodies as they please. But rather from the speed at which conclusions would be jumped to, the dark places from where theories would emerge, the passive-aggressive injunctions that would soon enough invite me to join the movement of cancellation on the actor and ultimately, a #MeToo. I was already tired of it. That thought, I still had not opened the article. It is obvious now that I did not know its content, but just assumed it. My opinion on the case was made before I even checked the facts. Morgan Freeman? Na, it must have been fake news.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/1*kNfdKDWBPAr9A5f1SAK3SA.jpeg" /><figcaption>Screenshots of various Tweets posted within one hour after cnn’s article publication.</figcaption></figure><p>I checked my Twitter’s feed, he was trending. I found myself determined not to follow this movement of public crucifixion of someone accused of having done something without proofs being legitimately approved yet, and so was Twitter. Ladies and gentlemen, tables have turned. The platform allowing the public to smash down a celebrity without letting him (cause it’s always a he) the possibility to stand a defence is no longer available. People are not buying it anymore. They want proofs, records, photos, witnesses. And so did I, only because I craved justice. I therefore prepared myself to thoroughly weight the value of whatever was reported in the article as factual and opened the notification. My opinion on the case, as you may imagine, changed when I checked the facts. But Twitter’s did not.</p><p><em>And that’s where I get to ask what </em><strong><em>exactly</em></strong><em> it is that we want</em>. I fear the intellectual challenge of getting away from our emotions in order to analyse the elements of time and space that constitute these allegations will no longer be welcomed. Last December, the reporter Alia E. Dastagir recalled the facility for certain to <a href="https://eu.usatoday.com/story/news/2017/12/08/analysis-movement-metoo-but-heres-why-were-still-talking-believewomen/923156001/">distrust women’s voice</a> and it resonates dangerously here. I fear that moment when the truth will no longer be admitted, despite being proven, because our ability to pay serious attention to this type of behaviour and hold accountable the accused will expire. After all, aren’t male all the same? If we can draw statistics showing the probability for a woman to be victim of sexual abuse in the course of her life, why should we expect movie stars and politicians not to be the responsible?</p><p>Well, because we made them movie stars and politicians. The public sphere is a rotten space because it is built for and financed by us. Although far from being the least, this extent alone is enough to keep our guard up. So Twitter, you wanted facts. Here, you have them. Now, let’s all together be satisfied when truth appears under the sun.</p><p>Our exasperation towards this kind of news, also linked to <a href="https://metro.co.uk/2017/10/18/its-ok-if-youre-a-bit-tired-of-hearing-about-the-harvey-weinstein-stuff-now-7009906/">our wish for them to simply stop from appearing to us on a daily basis</a>, should not distract us from the gravity of this type of scandal to which we are unfortunately becoming immune to. Our refusal to be dragged under a set of emotional thoughts designed to, according to some, prevent us from reasoning is worthy. But it is very important not to replace it by its opposite: the refusal to acknowledge factual presentations of events designed to help us evaluating situations for what they are. There is a fine line here that we must constantly be seeking for.</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=59c35dd5df5d" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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