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        <title><![CDATA[Stories by Chinatu Ukeka on Medium]]></title>
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            <title><![CDATA[My Late Dad's Lace he never wore!]]></title>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Chinatu Ukeka]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Wed, 13 May 2026 08:52:24 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2026-05-13T08:55:42.506Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>There’s this lace my Dad had (e be like e still dey). He kept it for only God knows the occasion… He passed without ever wearing it.</p><p>The other day at Nneoma’s house, I laid down with her wrappers, the ones she only wears when going out.</p><p>You see this life? The hustle, the tussle, the pressure to acquire things… na here all of them go still remain.</p><p>Even this car wey dey my mind… na only here I go fit drive am. I no go carry am leave this world.<br> <br>So truly, na to take life gently!</p><p>When it comes, it comes. And while waiting, I’ll keep my joy and hope alive.</p><p>YOU ARE THE SPECIAL OCCASION <br> <br>Have you ever really thought about it?</p><p>Somehow, we still don’t have so much, yet God has kept us. We are surviving, growing, laughing, becoming… through His help.</p><p>So why should what we don’t have yet steal our peace completely?</p><p>At the end of it all, everything earthly stays here.</p><p>Let’s focus on what truly matters: Knowing Christ and making Him known.</p><p>Work hard o. Take care of yourself o. Live well o.</p><p>But keep in mind: Every earthly possession will come in due time, but may we not lose ourselves, our joy, or our purpose for things we’re still waiting for.</p><p>Natu✍🏾</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=ad0979d3b9ff" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[The Awareness of Two Realities]]></title>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Chinatu Ukeka]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Thu, 30 Oct 2025 23:17:27 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2026-05-13T09:02:15.491Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The Awareness of Two Realities</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/1*l6bV92nD2jCL_Giv2GbwsQ.jpeg" /></figure><p>There’s the awareness of the wound in my heart whenever I think about Nneoma’s passing but it doesn’t end there.</p><p>There’s also the awareness of who God is.<br>Nneoma is God’s daughter.<br>I am God’s daughter too.</p><p>And God is good, always good and only good.</p><p>So why should I slip into depression and give in to the devil’s plan of doom when I understand the goodness of God, even in unpleasant situations?</p><p>If we truly believe God’s calendar is not the same as ours, then how did we come up with “gone too soon”? I guess there’s a pardon for that because we speak from our calendar, from our longing not to miss their presence so soon. But perhaps God simply wanted His daughter back. It was His time.</p><p>Yes, it pains me. I’m human.<br>Selfish in some ways, selfless in others.<br>Selfish: She shouldn’t have gone now.<br>Selfless: Thank God for the privilege of having her as my mother for 29 years. Her role went far beyond motherhood.</p><p>God used her to teach me to understand love in its depth, to know Him better, to learn what true faith looks like.</p><p>Nneoma served the Lord wholeheartedly and taught me to do the same. Praying to God was always her first response to everything.</p><p>The devil whispered that there’s nothing worth living for anymore that I should end it.<br>But that’s a very dirty lie.</p><p>I was trained to know better.</p><p>Here’s the truth: I’m not as strong as people think.<br>It’s supernatural strength. It can only be by God.<br>People say they’re praying for me, and I believe them, because it’s working.</p><p>It’s also supernatural covering. Years of being grounded in God’s Word, fellowship with believers, countless hours of sitting under teachings, prayer, vigils, retreats, camp meetings... Church. Accountability. Faith community.</p><p>It didn’t happen in a day, not a week or month. It took years of preparation for such a moment as this.</p><p>And I can boldly say: it pays to know God deeply. To submit to a spiritual covering.</p><p>People often say, “It’s not about going to church, it’s about knowing God for yourself.”<br>But I’ve learned it’s both. I mean ,there’s no harm in doing both.</p><p>A relationship with God isn’t just about getting our needs met.</p><p>It’s about trusting His wisdom beyond our understanding...</p><p>Expecting and being strengthened for both the sunny and the stormy days.</p><p>And that we are never alone. He&#39;s with us through it all!</p><p>My last words to Nneoma were:<br>“You know Christ died for your sins, right?<br>He was buried for you, and on the third day, He rose again for you.<br>He loves you. I love you too...&quot;</p><p>Said this while rubbing her head. Then I kissed her forehead before stepping out.</p><p>Over here, it&#39;s the awareness of two realities <br>The Human and the Supernatural</p><p>Each takes turns, yet one truth remains unshaken:<br>God’s Word is eternal.</p><p>He alone prepared me for this day and keeps me standing still.</p><p>Nneoma’s legacy is alive and it speaks.🙌🏾</p><p>#NNEOMA</p><p>#HeavenGained🕊️</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=bee3812b66d9" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Chilling
September 20th, 2025]]></title>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Chinatu Ukeka]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Sat, 20 Sep 2025 15:27:33 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2025-09-20T15:27:33.933Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Chilling<br>September 20th, 2025</p><p>Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is rest.<br>Today, I choose to chill and live, not just exist.</p><p>I packed up and told myself, “You know what?”</p><p>Damn any timeline.</p><p>Timeline of wanting to achieve abc.<br>Timeline to be up and running.<br>Timeline to be found doing xyz projects.</p><p>I’m done feeling worked up.<br>Right now? I’m chilling.</p><p>No worries.<br>No stress.</p><p>I’m living,<br>...and that’s what counts right now.</p><p>I’ll cry when I need to, but I’ll dust off after and keep living.</p><p>It’s gonna be tough (already is).<br>But away from any pressure, I’ll just chill.</p><p>I don’t have it all figured out, but chilling? I know that one.</p><p>To rest.<br>To see worry and pick a different task.<br>To face storms without overthinking.</p><p>You know? Rest goes beyond controlling the body’s motion.<br>It’s about setting a pace that isn’t tied to an “expected” timeline, but instead choosing to run life’s race one day at a time.</p><p>And the time? Not dependent on anyone’s definition of it.</p><p>Na rest I dey so.<br>Wrote this from there.<br>Natu is chilling.</p><p>Yours in Progress,<br>Natu.</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=ff31b111b280" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[I was taught that if I happen to be in a room or anywhere and correction is been made, even if I…]]></title>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Chinatu Ukeka]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Mon, 09 Jun 2025 11:54:13 GMT</pubDate>
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            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/1*jHdgU1l7UVHNnfKBl-XWGg.jpeg" /></figure><p>Chinatu, hope you’re learning?</p><p>I was taught that if I happen to be in a room where correction is being made, even if I wasn’t involved in the “wrong,” I should still use that opportunity to reflect on my own life and areas where I may have fallen short as well.</p><p>At that moment, I’m not to act like the correction has nothing to do with me simply because I didn’t commit that particular wrong.</p><p>Having experienced chaos in the past and even in the present, I always ask myself:<br>“Natu, hope you’re learning?”</p><p>Yeah!</p><p>Because many times when things happen, we just move with the flow bouncing back quickly without truly taking lessons from what happened.</p><p>And in doing so, we may not really learn from the experience. That makes it easier to fall back into the same cycle again.</p><p>Sometimes, we don’t even recognize early enough that we’ve been here before or remember how we found our way out the first time.</p><p>Let&#39;s paint a scenario:</p><p>Your friend is not taking your advice over a matter and you’re concerned they may be heading toward the wrong path.</p><p>But here’s the puzzle.</p><p>Don’t just picture your friend and the wrong direction alone. Fix yourself inside the same situation.</p><p>Ask yourself:</p><p>“Hope I’m learning from this as well?”</p><p>“Am I also paying attention to patterns in my own life?”</p><p>“Should I be in the same position, how would I react to this?”</p><p>Sometimes, these questions soften your frustration and strengthen your patience.</p><p>Because it’s easy to see clearly when it is someone else’s journey. But wisdom is when you also see yourself in the mirror of their choices.</p><p>And even while you care deeply, you remember: you can guide, but you cannot live their decisions for them.</p><p>You can go as far as consciously calling yourself by your name to say &quot;Chinatu, learn o&quot;</p><p>You see those pieces of advice we post for ourselves and others to read and learn from, let’s also practice the habit of placing ourselves as part of the audience that needs to learn too, always.<br>Even when we feel like we are already “good to go.”</p><p>We’ll always need the lessons.</p><p>So! Whether e concern you or not, be jotting things down o. Dey learn!</p><p>Chinatu, with all these you’ve written and the experiences you’ve had, both direct and indirect, hope you’re learning?</p><p>Because it’s easy to speak wisdom and still miss it when life presents it in real time.</p><p>So even as you share advice and reflections, remember to stay in the audience of your own words.</p><p>Not above them. Not outside them. But inside them too.</p><p>Always learning. Always adjusting. Always becoming.</p><p>Natu✍🏾</p><p>Feels so good to be fully back!🤭🎉🎉🎉</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=2abfed905d43" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[One of the perks of writing is that there may likely be something to remember afterwards]]></title>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Chinatu Ukeka]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Tue, 29 Aug 2023 13:56:58 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2023-08-29T13:56:58.451Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>One of the perks of writing is that there may likely be something to remember afterwards😂</p><p>&quot;I skipped adding this or that and that&quot;</p><p>and then the subtle &quot;typos&quot;,<br>let&#39;s not even go there😂</p><p>&quot;Oh! this other way would have been better&quot;<br>Relatable right?😅</p><p>Well, that&#39;s what *learning* is about😊</p><p>We spot the errors, make corrections, then experience improvement and growth.</p><p>#living<br> #learning <br> #writing<br> #growth</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=176aef2f598e" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Dear You,]]></title>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Chinatu Ukeka]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Tue, 29 Aug 2023 13:55:41 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2023-08-29T14:03:14.479Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/1*LKkbY-rlqrwmfn6fs5SN2w.jpeg" /></figure><p>Dear you (intro),<br>Can I share my journal with you?</p><p>I once used to be a voracious reader, a very good one at that. I kept lists of books read in a month and year... This kept me busy in my own world of experiencing the stories and lives of others without a travel...</p><p>...but, all that dropped when the cares of life overwhelmed me. Little by little, I couldn&#39;t go past a chapter of a book, postponing here and there, and that was it, I stopped reading... Suddenly, there was no book record even in a whole Year🥺</p><p>...but, guess what you,<br>I picked up reading again🥺 how it happened is divine!!! Started with addressing what knocked me down all along (yeah! that’s where to start so I don’t drop again).</p><p>Being a &quot;one per time&quot; kind of person, I got introduced to an Author whose line of thoughts I find so fascinating! <br>_Reading tools: notepad, dictionary, thesaurus and Bible_</p><p>What a mind! _I wondered in awe,_ and I look forward to devouring any of his materials I meet on the way... Fave author alert _yet_!</p><p>_The beautiful thing about reading is that it patterns your thoughts, what you think about and the possibilities of things..._</p><p>Dear you,</p><p>*I just finished reading my first book of the year*💃 _at the point of sending this message to you_😇 unto the next...</p><p>For now, I don&#39;t intend writing often, _I can only when I&#39;m inspired to..._</p><p>So what is it going to be from here?<br>_...more reading_😌</p><p>The End!😌</p><p>_with time,_ I&#39;ll make a good writer</p><p>Till then,</p><p>Know or have &#39;Learn-on-the-job&#39; writing gigs?</p><p>My brain is available for exercises😌</p><p>May 2023.</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=15ae68cdea94" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[My name is Chinatu]]></title>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Chinatu Ukeka]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Tue, 29 Aug 2023 13:42:52 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2023-08-29T13:49:09.722Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/715/1*2nuMUKNwHnAyK_L-gaLW6g.jpeg" /></figure><p>My name is Chinatu</p><p>I’m a Believer</p><p>I’m also an Entrepreneur<br>I run a brand called @natu_organics instagram.com/natu_organics<br>CAC registered<br>I also have a Personal Shopping brand<br>@shopwithnatu <a href="http://instagram.com/shopwithnatu">instagram.com/shopwithnatu</a><br>I love pictures as well, so I have an insta page for that — instagram.com/chinatuukeka</p><p>I Write<br>I do freelance Proofreading</p><p>I Sing<br>I can play _do-re-mi-fa-so-la-ti-do_ on the Piano and Guitar<br>(I hope to be a good guitar player)</p><p>I can play around Video Editing<br>(basic knowledge)</p><p>I can find my way around Social Media Marketing, Sales and Printing services too.</p><p>I love Agriculture and learning towards being an Agripreneur</p><p>A little about me😊</p><p>Peace✌🏾</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=3522f799780b" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[I choose You!]]></title>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Chinatu Ukeka]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Wed, 23 Jun 2021 10:16:02 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2021-06-23T10:19:54.973Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/1*fn9kSFygY7MUUP-vFQ5b7w.jpeg" /></figure><p>I choose You!</p><p>Ever wondered how a human grows in another human? How they tend to feel good and grow in there for 9 months! Oh! That’s the inner world we may only live in wonder about. God is good!</p><p>So let’s talk about the Host. The Mum to be and her well-wishers.</p><p>The feelings anticipating a baby is surreal. “What will he/she look like!”, “If it’s a boy, he’ll have his Daddy’s nose, definitely not the mum’s” lol. “If it’s a girl, I’ll plate her all the fanciful baby hairs”. The list is endless, all in anticipation of a coming child. How sweet!</p><p>Do we talk about the routine drugs, meals to avoid (sometimes favourites. Awn), lying position, pains and all. Still, Mama says to the coming Child, I choose you.</p><p>The feelings of “Oh! I’m gonna be a Mummy”, “Oh! I’m gonna be a Daddy” is unmatched. The promises from the womb down to their delivery. The Bridal shower, naming ceremonies, party after party… (giggles)</p><p>They all represent “I love you Baby” in another terms “For choosing me as your Mummy and Daddy, We choose you too, Baby”</p><p>May God bless every pregnant women and grant them safe deliveries and also bless those that are believing for same awesomeness. Amen!</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=d4bb75503f08" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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