Babe, please read this when you are on your own, I have something to ask you, it’s nothing bad, but please read the whole thing as it tries to explain my thinking, it’s taken quite a bit of nerve to ask, and a fair bit of thinking to write. I’m doing it by text for a few reasons, firstly I’m a little embarrassed and apprehensive about what I’m going to ask, and even if I actually want the reality of what I’m asking for. This way I can hopefully say it properly and get my feelings across without getting my words wrong or misunderstood or missing anything out, but the most important reason is that I don’t want to blindside you or put you on the spot, and I want you to have time to think about it and digest it properly. I’ve been thinking about this for quite some time, but there is always something that comes up, or doesn’t seem the right time that makes me change my mind about asking, but after how much I upset you the other night I just decided that I think I would broach it. What I’m asking you for is to spank me, I’m not asking for a kinky play spanking, what I want from you is a proper spanking that will be hard and long enough to leave me sore and possibly bring me to tears. You would be in control, you decide how I am presented, like over your knee or on the bed etc, what you use to spank me with, how hard, and how long, it would end when you think I’ve had enough, not just because I ask you, or am crying. My preference would be naked, tied and gagged, but like I say, your decision. I do have a couple of requests, in that if you decide to do it, you let me go to the toilet first so I can prepare, and also when it’s finished maybe you rub some soothing lotion in and we can cuddle after to make things good again, and then after for everything to be forgotten, like wiping the slate clean. I think I need this as a form of like stress relief or kind of therapy, I also think that it might be good for you too, I don’t want an angry beating from you, I want a punishment that’s brought from love, if that makes sense? I think it could be good for us both as a way of getting rid of frustration. Afterwards it would be up to us to decide if we wanted to keep it as a regular maintenance type thing, or for actual punishment if I’ve upset you rather than ignoring each other for days, or even that it’s just not for us. This isn’t saying that I wouldn’t love to do the type of play we used to if we got to that place, but this is different, like I said, it’s not sex play, I think it’s therapeutic and could possibly help us. Whatever you decide I love you, and it’s because I love you so much, that I feel I can ask you for this, and I can trust you to do it without physically hurting me. If you do decide to go through with it we can discuss it further or you can just do it, if you don’t want to do it please can you tell me so I’m not left just wondering, please have a think about it, I love you x

I have long been interested in submission, After my first (very vanilla) marriage ended I decided to experiment a bit, I’ve dabbled with it through ex girlfriends and had some success, the last time was with my now Wife. Unfortunately our, let’s call it kinky play is now nonexistent and even our vanilla sex life has almost drizzled out since my wife started to go through Menopause, this causes me to become frustrated, depressed and unfortunately resentful. I started reading about FLR’s and the benefits of Domestic discipline, and eventually plucked up the courage to approach my wife and ask her if she would punish me for issues at the time, and also moving forward with maintenance spanking. So far she has not been receptive to the idea, and has pretty much ignored my request.