Hello, Madelaine. Repeating stuff isn’t something that “men” do to “women”. It’s what “people” do to “people” — human behaviour is messy and often disappointing, communication especially so. That’s why Dinah Maria Mulock Craik wrote:

Oh, the comfort —
The inexpressible comfort of feeling
safe with a person,
Having neither to weigh thoughts,
Nor measure words — but pouring them
All right out — just as they are —
Chaff and grain together —
Certain that a faithful hand will
Take and sift them —
Keep what is worth keeping —
and with the breath of kindness
Blow the rest away.

You work in a STEM subject. Men outnumber women in STEM subjects. So, ceteris paribus, you will receive more responses from males than females. You will therefore receive more disappointing responses from males than females. Your elevation of this artefact of statistical sampling to a general conclusion about what “men” do (if that is what you are doing) risks committing the fallacy of affirming the consequent[1].

My female academic friends in female dominated subjects tell me that the responses of some of their female colleagues can also be fairly trying at times. They have more female responses than male responses. It would be foolish to make some statement about what “women” do on the basis of that observation. Wouldn’t it?

Keep what’s worth keeping and, with the breath of kindness, blow the rest away.

[1] i.e. “If you patronise me, then you are a man. You are a man. Therefore you patronise me.”