Removing The Anger from Danger (With Resources)
“And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry,” — Ephesians 4:26
As followers of Christ, we always have the upper hand on life because we have the ultimate guide to help us navigate through some of the issues that life itself brings upon us. One of those issues is the emotion of anger. It’s imperative to know that “danger” is actually spelled “anger” but without the D. We all experience anger, even our righteous, sinless Lord, Jesus. But not everyone experiences danger. Danger only comes when we allow anger to lead us to sin. That’s right, anger is not a sin because anger can be righteous if your anger is directed to God’s justice or God’s righteousness. However, anger can lead to sin and that’s when we’ve stepped into dangerous territory.
“We all experience anger, even our righteous, sinless Lord, Jesus. But not everyone experiences danger. Danger only comes when we allow anger to lead us to sin.” — Ed Clemons
So, here are some resources that I have found to be super practical and biblically rooted in God’s word that will lead you to freedom from “D-anger” kind of anger.
Three Things to Avoid When Angry
by Rick Warren
We all get angry from time to time. We may handle it differently, but none of us can escape the emotion entirely. But just because we get angry doesn’t mean we’re sinning.
The Bible says, “If you become angry, do not let your anger lead you into sin” (Ephesians 4:26a GNT). Paul tells us in this passage not to let our anger lead us into sin. That means that anger isn’t necessarily sin. The truth is, we can deal with our anger in both appropriate and inappropriate ways.
Unfortunately, most of us express our anger in ways that get us further from our goals instead of moving us closer to them.
For example, here are three things to avoid when angry:
Don’t suppress your anger. Don’t store it up inside. When you suppress anger without expressing it in proper ways, it’s like taking a soft drink bottle and shaking it up. One day it’s going to pop! It’ll impact your body eventually. Doctors tell us a number of physical ailments are often brought on by suppressed anger.
Don’t repress it. When you repress your anger, you simply deny it’s there. Deny your anger often enough and you’ll be depressed. When I used to do more counseling, I’d hear many people tell me they were depressed, but they were really just angry. They just didn’t think that Christians should get angry, so they simply bottled it up inside. Denying anger is a sin. It’s called lying.
Don’t express it in inappropriate ways. We can express anger in a variety of inappropriate ways. We pout, spit sarcasm, manipulate, or do something stupid (get drunk, have affairs, etc.). None of those approaches get us anywhere near the result we’re looking for.
So what should we do with our anger?
Confess it. You don’t just admit the anger, but you also admit the cause. You tell God — and whoever you’re angry with — that you’re frustrated or you feel threatened. The more honest you can be in your relationships, the easier it will be to get to the root causes of your anger.
“The more honest you can be in your relationships, the easier it will be to get to the root causes of your anger.” — Rick Warren
Here’s the good news about your anger: You may have grown up in a home where anger was consistently expressed in appropriate ways. Inappropriate anger is learned, but it can be unlearned, too. You can change. You don’t have to stay the same.
How To Deal With Daily Anger
The problem with anger is that we cannot escape the circumstances, people, or moments that causes anger to come out from hiding. But, the Good News is that our Father has not given us a spirit of fear but one of love, power, and a sound (controlled) mind. 2 Timothy 1:7.
So, even though we cannot always escape the igniting factors to anger, we can get real with ourselves and God by learning how to deal with the inner me. That is where the biggest enemy sleeps; inside of me. When the inner you becomes more dependent on Jesus, receives all that Jesus did for you to have a full life, and becomes courageous enough to heal no matter the cost, that is when you find the power to deal with “danger” daily.
Watch this resource from marriage today on “How to Daily Deal with Anger”
Watch this resource from Dr. Charles Stanley “How to Deal With Anger”
It’s important that as a shepherd of God’s people that I stay fresh in my approach to leading the church and helping people find Full Life in Jesus. This is why I choose to read (or listen to) books. Sometimes they read me and end up on my shelf but for the most part I really enjoy practical books packed with scripture. When it comes to anger, it can be our spiritual kryptonite like it is for Superman. Like Sups, we are supernaturally empowered people who are from a different world than we live in (John 17:16). But emotions like anger can steal our strength quickly.
That thought alone is one that can charge the warrior inside of us all. If you really desire to overcome anger, then commit to John Bevere’s book called Killing Kryptonite. He provides an amazing book full of God’s word and practical points to lead us (I’m reading it too) closer to Jesus and away from “danger”.