How to Control the Uncontrollable in Life…
A person, who no matter how desperate the situation, gives others hope, is a true leader. — Daisaku Ikeda
Happiness is what lies inside you not outside. Many people think that happiness may lie in what they didn’t achieve so far in life, something that they always wished to have in their life. But, it’s not always true. If you search for happiness all around rather than searching inside you or accepting what happens to you, you won’t be happy.
You cannot control what happens to you, and you cannot control life’s plan for you, you cannot control your happiness for not accepting life.
Acceptance is the key to your happiness. If you accept your life the way it is, you will be happier. But, if you stand against your life, you won’t be able to live happily.
Accepting life, not just means to receive all the happiness it gives to you. Instead, it also means to accept all the negativity, the downfall that life gives to you. By doing this, you make yourself strong enough to face the negativity of life, and you get to know yourself in a more better way. Accepting life as it comes, means you are ready to accept your life with a positive mindset, a positive approach to life even in the adverse situations.
Here’s how to respond to life when facing Uncontrollable situations :
FOCUS ON THE LESSON IT GIVES
The negative situation is something which no one likes to get into. But, there’s always something to learn in each phase of life. Negative situation lets you know your strengths and weaknesses, it tells your caliber to deal with tough situations, how you handle yourself in these times. It teaches you to be positive and deal with any situation.
DON’T PROCRASTINATE
When in a negative situation, people generally procrastinate to do any other work, they avoid because of their fixed mindset; they accept that things will not change and believe that the negative situation will continue.
DON’T GET STUCK IN A SITUATION
People stuck themselves in a negative situation and accepted it as their life. Everyone faces adverse conditions, but it’s entirely up to you how you deal with it, what effort you put to overcome this situation.
FOCUS ON THE AREAS THAT ARE WITHIN YOUR CONTROL
A negative situation is faced by all. All you need to do is follow the principle of giving your best and letting God do the rest. Ponder over your strength, the control area that can be controlled by you. Just maintain your focus on the controllable part.
UNDERSTAND WHAT IS WITHIN AND OUTSIDE YOUR CONTROL
Make a chart of controlled factors and uncontrollable factors. Try to give your best in these control areas that can fetch you positive results. Allocate most of your resources to controllable part to increase the outcome you get.
ADAPTABILITY
Whatever happens in your life is beyond your control, you cannot control your life. So, rather than crying over the situation, you must try to adapt yourself to the prevailing case, for the time being. By doing this, you know your ability to survive in the severe phase of your life.
SET GOALS
As the saying goes, “Time heals everything” if you are facing negative situation now, then there will be positive situations also. But, if you do not plan for it now, you won’t get it. Everyone faces adverse situations, but what you need to do is make yourself strong enough to deal with it and go ahead with the planning for the future, for the life you always wanted. Make time for creating your life, for your hobby/passion, make a proper lifestyle. Read books whenever you are stuck in negativity. Spend time with someone close to you, your dear ones.
Unless you have bad times, you can’t appreciate the good times.- Joe Torre
At Last
Life is very short, but the perspective of life is very big. The uncontrollable situation happens to everyone whether be rich, poor, ordinary, extraordinary persons. A situation will never see the kind of person you are before coming to you; it will just come up and surprise you. We must deal with it without worrying about it.
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