PSYCHOLOGY
The Fetishism of Feeling Good and The Dead Souls
One Cannot Grow by Eating Only Cake
Everything that happens to us stems from an obsession with “feeling good.”
The idea that a static and ordinary state is always one of the states of feeling good and happiness is already preached by the system. That’s precisely why we create hobbies to immediately fill the void, actions to alleviate boredom, words to soothe anger, pleasures to bandage sorrow, hostilities to freeze grief, oppressors to alleviate our guilt, and victimhoods to legitimize our sins.
We neither face our inadequacies nor give room to the transformative cramps of guilt, the fertility of loneliness, or the creative moans of sorrow.
When never feeling bad becomes the ultimate goal, the mind starts serving this purpose.
The obsession with not feeling guilty drags us into the obsession with being right, the legitimacy of victimizing, scapegoating, and avoiding responsibility and avoiding change.
Not touching sorrow, not mourning, not being able to be alone, not listening to the silence of the void, or the hum of boredom functions as the greatest obstacle to understanding both ourselves and others.
Truths are distorted to avoid feeling bad for even a moment; to avoid even a moment of twinge of the consciences, justifications are found, faults are sought to avoid feeling inadequate, the past is distorted to be right, new pleasures are found to avoid sorrow, and cramps are prevented.
However, every emotion is a vehicle. They all transport us from one place to another, like channels pouring into a productive passage.
There are many blessings to be distilled from not feeling good. While they are a taste we can feel on our palate, a morsel we can digest and derive nourishment from, all tasteless emotions are vomited back.
Of course, one cannot grow by eating only cake. However, the mindset of a five-year-old saying, “I don’t eat okra,” lives on in different silhouettes.
Every emotional experience is a necessary material for the construction of the soul, but we continually steal from the material and build cheap, flimsy buildings.
Ultimately, what happens to us, ironically, is the unnamed unhappiness, the feeling of something always missing, meaninglessness, and emptiness.
In trying so hard never to feel bad, we reach this paradoxical result, which this time may not offer its initial generous fertility…
At this point, where we have distanced ourselves layer by layer from our original troubles and needs, where voices mix, and everything is masked by something else, this time higher doses of anesthetics may be required.
A more numb consciousness, a more calloused conscience, a more rusted mind, and a frozen state… And thus, souls that died before their bodies do circulate among these golden strikes.
Hilal Bebek
- Excerpt from the Facebook page of Clinical Psychologist Ziya Ünlütürk
The readers whose consciences have not yet been numb might also like the following article.
And yes, every emotional experience is a necessary material for the construction of the soul. Those who want to learn how to construct their souls healthily will like The Work of Byron Katie.
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