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How ‘His’ and ‘Her’ Marriages Can Lead to Gray Divorce

If she sees a problem and he doesn’t, that’s a problem

In the 1970s, sociologist Jessie Bernard observed that how a marriage was experienced depended a lot on whether you were the wife or the husband — only heterosexual marriages were allowed at the time — and thus couples had a “his” or “her” marriage.




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Vicki Larson

Vicki Larson

Award-winning journalist, author of “Not Too Old For That: How Women are Changing the Story of Aging,” coauthor of “The New I Do,” mom

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