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I’m Getting a Lot From “The Let Them Theory” — Update With Tea

The author may be a huckster, but the wisdom is sound

8 min readMay 6, 2025

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I’m listening to an audio book that I often find annoying. The author, who is also the reader, has an East Coast accent which I don’t enjoy — it sounds aggressive to me — and she’s too often telling me that she’s going to change my life. Newsflash: she’s not going to change my life. Plus, she has several chapters that plain don’t apply to me, but I’m afraid to skip over them in case I miss something, so I have to listen to her annoying voice tell me about how the theory applies at work (I’m retired), in new romantic relationships (I’ve been married for 40 years), and when comparing myself to other, more successful, people (which I don’t tend to do). But despite all that, I AM getting something significant from the big idea in her book, which is really a distillation of various teachings I’ve heard before. But distillations are good. They make big ideas easy to understand and remember.

The book I’m talking about is called “The Let Them Theory” by Mel Robbins, and I recommend it, despite its flaws.

What Robbins says in this book is to let other people think, say, and do what they’re going to think, say, and do. “Let them.”

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Patsy Fergusson
Patsy Fergusson

Written by Patsy Fergusson

Tree hugger. Tour guide. Top Writer. Feminist. Newly-baptized Bay swimmer. Editor of Fourth Wave. https://medium.com/fourth-wave

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