MARRIAGE
Not All Men Suck
You can be a feminist and still enjoy your marriage
I need to confess something.
I’m just going to come right out and say it: I’m married to a good guy and we’re happy together.
I know this makes people suspicious. I must be in denial. We have been told how bad marriage is for women. Divorce is trending; a barrage of popular anti-marriage books are out. (The Atlantic offers an overview of several recent ones.)
If you get married, critics say, expect him not to do his share of chores. You’ll have to cook and clean for him and take care of him. Having a husband is just like having another kid.
This hasn’t been my experience
It’s true that I do most of the cooking, but that’s because I love to cook and find it relaxing. But he’d do his share if I didn’t want to do it.
We don’t fight about housework because neither of us cares about having a perfectly neat home. If I insisted on everything being spotless, I’d have to do more housework and I’m not willing to. We have a messy house unless someone is coming over, and then we both panic clean until the doorbell rings.
It’s fine.
