ADOPTION SERIES | PART FOUR

Open Adoption Sounds Better than It Is

Amy Seek’s open adoption was a textbook case of how it should work — and it still isn’t working

Amy Seek and the baby she surrendered to an adoptive family. Photo courtesy of Amy Seek.

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For a recent article I wrote about manipulative adoption industry language and practices (“The ‘Loving Option’ Is a Lie”), I interviewed five women: two adoptees (Lina Vanegas and Mila Konomos), two birth — or first — mothers (Renee Gelin and Amy Seek), and one adoptive mother (Diana). This five-part Adoption Series will comprise segments of our interview transcripts that didn’t appear in the story.

The “Loving Option” is a Lie

This fourth interview in the series is with Amy Seek, who manages the Instagram account for Concerned United Birth Parents and is the author of the memoir God and Jetfire: Confessions of a Birth Mother.

Kristen Tsetsi (KT): In an interview you did on NPR, you said that as far as adoption goes, your situation is ideal. You have a relationship with the adoptive…