Some Days, I Actually Feel Sorry for Men
Who pays for what, when, and why?
I’m in this dating advice-kind-of group (aka one of those “Are we dating the same guy?” groups). A common topic of discussion revolves around who pays for what, especially on the first date.
Ultimately, I think in terms of dating and relationships, we should be as equitable as possible. Do your share. Pay your way. I feel very uncomfortable never contributing. However, most of the time, when I have gone on first dates, I usually don’t pay. Typically the man won’t “allow” me to pay and typically, I am not playing the “no, let me pay” game.
My boyfriend has a larger income than I do and overall, he does spend more money, but I do buy him dinner, nice gifts, and contribute to our vacations. (Obviously, I pay my own personal bills).
Within these Facebook groups, I have noticed that some ladies seem to think that if a woman pays (whether on a first date or in an established relationship), they make it easy for men and allow men to be “low effort.”
I don’t agree. My boyfriend spoils me (like the taking me on nice vacations kind of spoiling). Even though I do spend money on him, he still likes to whisk me off to tropical islands. Not only does he spoil me by spending money on me, but he spoils me with what is the most…
