The Sex Books My Mom Left Behind

Contemplating the sex lives of your parents is never comfortable

Lsjaffee (Writer, Educator, Over-Thinker)
Fourth Wave

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Cleaning out and selling your parents’ home after both has died can be traumatic enough for any adult child. But an unexpected discovery made this unpleasant rite of passage almost worthwhile.

Hidden in my mom’s night table drawer laid a paperback collection of vintage sex books from the likes of best-selling authors Xavier Hollander (The Happy Hooker) and David Reuben, M.D. (Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex* But Was Afraid to Ask).

The titles alone — Nice Girls Do (published by Playboy’s book publishing arm); How to Get More Out of Sex: Than You Ever Thought You Could; Sexual Adventure in Marriage; Sex, Love and Marriage — seemed incongruous with the woman who gave birth to me.

Born in 1927, my mother, who passed away in 2017, was repressed by the same patriarchal values that still permeate throughout contemporary society.

When cleaning out personal belongings, it’s probably not all that unusual to sometimes find a stash of porn magazines by one’s post-WWII era father. But not my dad, who was born in 1930. What I did find buried under his socks and underwear was an unused vintage Trojan condom.

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Lsjaffee (Writer, Educator, Over-Thinker)
Fourth Wave

Marching to the beat of a different drummer. Non-binary human. No tolerance for racism, injustice & the patriarchy. lsjaffee@gmail.com https://larryjaffee.com