What It Truly Means to Be Single at Heart — and What It Doesn’t Mean

People who are single at heart are embracing single life, not avoiding intimacy

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The concept of being “single at heart” seems to be resonating. Since Single at Heart: The Power, Freedom, and Heart-Filling Joy of Single Life was published in December of 2023, what it means to be single at heart has been the topic of dozens of podcasts, radio shows, and TV shows, as well as articles, essays, and blog posts. It has been in the media in more than 20 nations. The question that comes up most often is what it means, and what it does not mean, to be single at heart. The most comprehensive answers are in the Single at Heart book. Here, I provide a brief overview.

Single at heart: what it is

Definition

• For people who are single at heart, single life is their best life — their most joyful, fulfilling, meaningful, psychologically rich, and authentic life.
• The single at heart love being single and want to stay single
• They are happy and flourishing because they are single, not in spite of it.

The one characteristic that most clearly separates people who are single at heart…