Signs You Are Ruining Your Relationships With People
Rounding up science-backed insights on the traits and behaviours that can doom a relationship.
Who does not want to improve the relations with other people, whether, in business or personal life, everybody wants to seek perfection when it comes to dealing with people. Well, let’s talk about the things you might be doing wrong while dealing with people.
Everyone wants to be rewarded for good behaviour, even animals rewarded for good behaviour learn more rapidly than being punished for bad behaviour. By criticizing you never make lasting changes, but often incur resentment, start appreciating people around you for their good jobs, for their hard work, for their good nature, and anything you find pleasing about them.
Never try to correct other people or even condemn their point of views, because everyone will just try to justify themselves and condemn you in return, everyone is correct in their own point of view, so just try to understand the facts and the opinions of the person you are talking to, because when dealing with people, always remember that you are not dealing with creature of logic, but with a creature of emotions. So, instead of condemning people, try to understand them and figure out why they do what they want to do because it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness.
“To know all, is to forgive all”
Be understanding and forgiving whenever you are dealing with anyone, because most fools try to criticize and complain about the things which are not under their control and start to blame others for the situations. Still, it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.
You should understand the fact that even God does not propose to judge people until the end of their days, then why should you.
Most of the people want to sense the feeling of importance. Even the whole of humanity has evolved around this feeling of human. The most significant discoveries ever made by people had a motive to get that feeling from other people, that is why different awards are given to people, just to make them feel important. So, as other people get motivated by that feeling, so whenever talking to a person, make them feel they are essential to you. People are so hungry for a taste of importance that they go insane to get it, you can achieve the miracle by giving people some honest appreciations.
Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
Always consider your ability to arouse enthusiasm among your people. The greatest asset you must possess is the technique to appreciate and encourage others.
The biggest mistake most of the people commit is, just by bowling out at people if they don’t like it, but never appreciated them when they correctly do the things.
Even in your personal relationship, always try to appreciate your partner for every effort they make for you.
Be hearty in your appreciation and lavish in your praise, and people will cherish your words and treasure them and repeat them over lifetime.
Another big mistake while dealing with people is you always talk about what YOU want, and never about what THEY want. We all forget that the other person is interested in themselves, not YOU, so to influence people always talk about what they want and show them how to get it.
You can make more friends in 2 months by becoming interested in other people than you can in 2 years by trying to get other people interested in you.
Always talk with a smile on your face because a man without a smiling face is just like an unwilling trader. Moreover, a route to anger is always a hidden fear.
Listening is another great ability with which you can attract a person, be a good listener because any person you are talking to is interested in his own problems, so he wants a person with a good listening skill. You must show your interest in that person.
Encourage people to talk about their accomplishments rather than telling your own.
A misunderstanding is never ended by an argument, but by tact, diplomacy, conciliation, and sympathetic desire to see another person’s point of view.
some points always to remember:
- Welcome the disagreement
- Control your temper
- Listen first
- Look for areas of agreement
- Be honest
- Promise to think over your opponent ideas and study them carefully
- Thank your opponents sincerely for their interest
- If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically
- Always begin a conversation in a friendly way
- Let the other person do a great deal of talking
- Make the other person happy about doing the things you suggest
I hope you try to follow these steps in your life and take your personal and professional relations to the next level.
