Are You A Woman Whose Love Life Depends On Pain?

Those who give the most are often cherished the least

Is it true love or you depend on pain? | Image by the author

If you love too much, there’s a subconscious reason for it which dates back to your youth. How normal do you think your family was?

All unhappy families have one thing in common: They cannot talk about the root of the problem. They may talk about some issues, but in a way that will hide essential secrets — those that make the family dysfunctional.

It’s never about how serious the problem is but how they treat it. Their level of secrecy (i.e., their inability to talk about difficulties) defines how abnormal the family becomes. The more dysfunctional the family, the more its members are affected.

In a dysfunctional family, members have precisely defined roles. Their communication is strictly limited to statements adequate for each role. As a result, the family members do not feel free to express their experiences, wishes, needs, and feelings. Instead, they must stay within the role that matches those of other members.

There are many roles, but these are the most common ones you can see in a family:

• The Golden Child — mustn’t let her parents down, so she can’t ever be wrong.
• The Parentified Child — takes care of her parent…