Healing Is Hard. Here Is the Real Advice No One Tells You About It

#1 Your “shoulds” are killing you

Maria Milojković, MA
From Maria with Love

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Healing is hard but doable
Healing is hard but doable | Image by the author

Healing is neither just lying on a shrink’s chaise longue nor holding a crystal in your hand until you manifest a better life. It’s more like a complex experiment: An unknown path into the forest of the self where you try different tools to see what helps you get through the dark.

The road to recovery is never identical for two people but we can say two things make healing hard for everyone.

1) Your “Shoulds” are killing you

Too many “shoulds” hamper your self-growth
Too many “shoulds” do you more harm than good | Image by the author

You don’t cry much because you don’t want to be a whiner.

And since nothing comes easy in life, you always try hard.

You hate it when people do something half-assed, so you do it flawlessly.

And if you’re a woman, it’s your default mode to be kind to people.

Have you ever counted how many “shoulds” guide your behavior daily?

Be strong, try hard, be perfect, be nice and kind — they are all bit-too-extreme unconscious beliefs from childhood that still influence how you…

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Maria Milojković, MA
From Maria with Love

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