Parental Narcissism: How to Make Your Kids Successful and Miserable
A child needs simple things
The most creative kindergarten, the best-ranked school, a superb pediatrician, a sports club, foreign language courses for babies, preschooler math lessons, organic food, individual tuition, etc. As parents, we care and thus try to provide for our kids as much as possible. But we’re still concerned that even this isn’t enough.
The older generations’ “recipes for success” don’t work in this time which is drastically different from theirs. Then again, that new thing we should do instead isn’t exactly clear either. New models are often contradictory and experts’ messages are confusing which makes parents even more insecure.
Sometimes our overwhelming worry and the awareness we can’t control adversities make us choose success and prestige as a way to security. And then such a search most often includes our kids, too. Somehow we create a personal “success formula” that becomes a guiding light of our parenting.
The aim can be anything: Success at school, in sport, an extraordinary talent or beauty, but it can also be different family values (absolute kindness, integrity, politeness, etc.), or an idyllic relationship between parents and the child, or unrealized parents’ ambitions… And if you look up to an ideal too…
