How To Stop Obsessing Over Someone
When the standard advice doesn’t work, it’s time to go deeper
Sometimes another person can take over your life. Whether it’s a new infatuation, long-term crush, or ex-partner, they can literally consume your being. Of course, the consequences can be dire. It can become so overwhelming, you find yourself unable to focus on anything but that person and the situation you find yourself in. You might find it impossible to concentrate at work, dropping previous passions, and even struggle to talk about anything else with your friends. It’s like this person is looming over every second of your existence, and soon you start to question your own sanity and mental health.
When left unchecked, the constant obsession only leads you to become more attached to the person as you have to back-rationalize why you devote your time to them. If it continues further, you may become Limerent and thus completely fixated on winning them over even if you don’t want a relationship.
Most people can recognise when things are getting out of hand and consciously look for help. The problem is that typical advice on how to quit obsessing is so cliche. People everywhere are dealing with obsessive crushes, and it’s not their fault. Nobody would be struggling if it was as simple as snapping out of it or doing more activities…
