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Is It Just Friendship — or Something More?

3 signs you can’t deny…

Manj Bahra
Modern Love
Published in
2 min readJan 26, 2025

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Let’s be real — someone reading this is in a “friendship” that doesn’t feel like just a friendship.

You’re calling it platonic, but deep down, something’s… off.

How do you know when it’s crossed the line from friendship into something more?

Here’s the truth: You already know.

But if you’re in denial and need clarity, here are three undeniable signs to watch for:

Would your partner approve?

If you were in a relationship, would your partner be OK with how you act around this person?

Could they read your texts without a full inquest?

Any chance they might question the lingering eye contact, inside jokes, or how close you stand?

If you have to think twice… you’re already in dangerous territory.

Do you get jealous?

Be honest.

Thought of your “friend” being with someone else making you uneasy?

Tensing up when they talk about dates or feeling possessive of their time and attention?

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Modern Love
Modern Love

Published in Modern Love

Sharing the best in the science and psychology of 21st-century dating

Manj Bahra
Manj Bahra

Written by Manj Bahra

Helping you break the cycle and find love. Neuroscience & psychology-based advice. 3 million reads and counting!

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