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Texting You Often Doesn't Guarantee He's Interested — Look For This Instead

Don't fall for this common mistake — here's what to focus on instead

Manj Bahra
4 min readMar 19, 2024


"He's texting me daily — I know he's interested."

I hear this often from clients. When I ask how they know frequent texting means he's interested, I usually get a blank stare.

"Duh — why else would he take the time to message?"

Sure, there are times when that's true. There are equally many occasions when weeks go by, yet he hasn't offered to meet, let alone made a move. This leads to more confusion and analysis as you try to make sense of the mixed signals.

Then there's the other side of the belief — that a lack of frequent texting means he's NOT attracted to you. Again, this can be true — but not always.

In fact, obsessing over how often a guy texts you can quickly turn into a vicious cycle. Before you know it, you're fixated on understanding his behaviour. Heck, I've seen highly intelligent people become utterly irrational—stalking online status, obsessing over read receipts, and staring at their phone, anticipating that notification (delivering a euphoric dopamine hit!).

It's incredibly easy to lose yourself in a web of rumination when you have…



Manj Bahra
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