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The #1 Thing Keeping You Stuck

It’s not even your fault…

Manj Bahra
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2 min readJan 19, 2025

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Every day, I talk to people who want to change their lives.

They’re sick of the same cycles: dating disappointment, career frustrations, and even the endless yo-yo of getting in shape.

Here’s what’s wild: most of them think they’re the problem.

And yes, you are responsible for your own life.

But the truth is… it’s never been harder to create meaningful change.

Why?

It’s not because we haven’t advanced.

It’s because we’ve advanced too much.

Fifteen years ago, if you wanted answers, you’d ask someone who had done it.

Someone with real insights — earned through experience.

Now? Information is everywhere. Opinions are endless. Proof is optional.

Your social media algorithm knows what’s on your mind — and bombards you with conflicting advice the moment you start searching for solutions.

One post says one thing. The next says the exact opposite, with receipts.

The result?

Paralysis. Exhaustion. And eventually — you give up.

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