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Why Am I Obsessed with Someone? Exploring Limerence

Can’t stop thinking about another person? It’s time to check for Limerence

Manj Bahra
9 min readMar 22, 2024


“The heart has its reasons of which reason knows nothing.” - Blaise Pascal

You’ve met a person, and it feels different.

Within minutes you just know there’s something special happening. You’re connecting in a way that you haven’t with anyone before. You discover how much you have in common. Before long, you feel as though you can read each other’s minds, and you get a huge hit of pleasure from the mere sight of them or their name on your phone screen.

As time goes on, the feelings rapidly intensify. You can’t wait to see that person and experience what happens next. They can do no wrong, and soon, your interaction with them becomes the highlight of your day. Almost all your waking moments are spent thinking of that special person — how they smiled at you, brushed your hand, and hinted that they wanted to see you more.

When described like this, it sounds like an intense and wonderful experience. It cosplays as once in a lifetime, as if it were destiny and meant to happen.

But what if it’s nothing more than our mind playing devious tricks, lulling us into a fantasy world where only we live?



Manj Bahra
Modern Dating Wisdom

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