Hello and thank you for signing up for Gaslit’s newsletter, a valuable resource for all those seeking to understand, escape or manage narcissistic relationships. This week is Maternal Mental Health Week in the UK and my thoughts were turned to the mental health of the children of narcissists and so…

By J’Accuse! — left-behind parent in paternal child abduction. FAMILY COURT ON TRIAL: Final Part 17 Expert Voices The fact of hidden traumas inflicted on children and targeted parents by family court judges and custody evaluators finding for abusers is dimmed and distorted by so much institutional gaslighting that victims emerge confused. Here is a short list of expert…

By J’Accuse! — left-behind parent in paternal child abduction. FAMILY COURT ON TRIAL: Part 16 Coda After her father abducted her, our daughter never lived with me again. But that brave, smart, wise girl — whom he dragged within one decade from one girlfriend to the next among various homes and apartments — was able to partially…

By J’Accuse! — left-behind parent in paternal child abduction. FAMILY COURT ON TRIAL: Part 15 Family Court Victim Impact Statement: PART 3 Part Three: Grief Mourning is a social ritual that bears witness to (validates) — rather than gaslights or denies, which is cruel! — the fact of loss. This social ritual not only helps a mourner engage with private grief (so that it doesn’t become…

By J’Accuse! — left-behind parent in paternal child abduction. FAMILY COURT ON TRIAL: Part 14 Family Court Victim Impact Statement: PART 2 Part Two: Shock and Shame Shock The hostility and gaslighting to which judges and evaluators subjected me was so relentless and overpowering that it shocked me to my core and has permanently shaken my faith in humanity and social systems. I was blindsided by the family court’s…

By J’Accuse! — left-behind parent in paternal child abduction. FAMILY COURT ON TRIAL: Part 13 Family Court Victim Impact Statement: PART 1 Part One: Confusion, Voicelessness, Helplessness & Hopelessness Family court is an abusive system that sacrifices children and destroys protective parents. It is not my place to speak for my now-adult daughter or her lived childhood experience. But for myself, I do speak.

By J’Accuse! — left-behind parent in paternal child abduction. FAMILY COURT ON TRIAL: Part 12 Forgiveness? Nah. Narc abusers intentionally choose their targets. Flying monkeys intentionally choose to facilitate the abuse, or to turn a blind eye (appeasement and gaslighting). Narcs and flying monkeys know that they’re hurting the vulnerable or powerless (a child, a spouse, an elder…

By J’Accuse! — left-behind parent in paternal child abduction. FAMILY COURT ON TRIAL: Part 11 Sodom, Gomorrah, and the Family Court No judge or evaluator brought even an iota of integrity, courage, or discernment to what should be sacred professional duties on behalf of endangered children. At the time, I didn’t understand why. The question perplexes in the way that good-hearted but…

By J’Accuse! — left-behind parent in paternal child abduction. FAMILY COURT ON TRIAL: Part 10 Domestic Violence in the Family Court Family court judges and evaluators facilitate the perpetuation of child and spousal abuse while gaslighting the fact of abuse and their role in it. If an abusive parent forces a safe parent to fight for the legal right to continue to…