It turns out that I, a cis, have a lot in common with transgender women and men.
It started when I discovered how I completely relate to transgenders’ quandaries about clothes.
The “trans pride” patch sat in my drawer for weeks after I bought it.
It’s not that I didn’t want to wear it. I’ve been out as a queer dyke since 1991 and have spent the last year or so working up to coming out genderqueer/ non-binary…
RuPaul once said “we all come into the world naked and the rest is drag.” In thinking about what I wanted to wear, I found that what resonated most deeply wasn’t how I dressed my body up in drag, but how I felt about my body itself. As a survivor of body terrorism, I…
I kept looking at the blood. That can’t be mine. That doesn’t belong to me. It was a warm summer night. I was on all fours, and the blood was dripping into a pool under my face, staining the…
What I Wanted To Wear: Tied Up
I’ve been attracted to ties for a long time, well before I came out as trans. Over the years I’ve put together a collection…
Here’s the thing: being fabulous doesn’t protect you. Compliments don’t keep you safe. The thing about being a…
