Gender 2.0

The T and me

It turns out that I, a cis, have a lot in common with transgender women and men.

It started when I discovered how I completely relate to transgenders’ quandaries about clothes.

What I Wanted To Wear: Madison Square Garden Edition

At concerts, I like to feel comfortable. I have…

#WhatIWantedToWear (and eventually did)

The “trans pride” patch sat in my drawer for weeks after I bought it.

It’s not that I didn’t want to wear it. I’ve been out as a queer dyke since 1991 and have spent the last year or so working up to coming out genderqueer/ non-binary…

#WhatIWantedToWear: There are No Rules, Just Prints

Today I had a performance uptown for a local…

#WhatIWantedToWear: The Skin I’m In

RuPaul once said “we all come into the world naked and the rest is drag.” In thinking about what I wanted to wear, I found that what resonated most deeply wasn’t how I dressed my body up in drag, but how I felt about my body itself. As a survivor of body terrorism, I…

What I Wanted to Wear: Dealing with Family

Dealing with family is complicated. I’m not out to my…

I Wear What I Want

Even When It Means Getting Punched in the Face

I kept looking at the blood. That can’t be mine. That doesn’t belong to me. It was a warm summer night. I was on all fours, and the blood was dripping into a pool under my face, staining the…

What I Wanted to Wear: Getting Real, Getting Free

What I Wanted To Wear: Tied Up

I’ve been attracted to ties for a long time, well before I came out as trans. Over the years I’ve put together a collection…

#WhatIWantedToWear: Auntiji

Here’s the thing: being fabulous doesn’t protect you. Compliments don’t keep you safe. The thing about being a…